i really hate being this way. it seems like it doesn't get any better. nothing i say seems to be positive-instead of seeing the good in something- i see negative. this is destroying me!and my relationship. instead of just taking my medication(now on abilify) and seeing the doctor for 15 min every so often- noq i am starting to see a therapist. i have only had 1 visit- i go again on Tuesday- we hope we can find the root of this anger and negativity. i hope we can- bc i do not see any light anywhere in this! i would rather be alone than to hang out with friends and fiance. i can think of nice things to say and to do- but i can't get through this wall that i have built up to actually show my care and my love. i can't go into a marriage feeling this way- Sept 23rd is not too far away! does anyone feel any of these things in their life? if so- how do you cope?
i really need to feel that other people can relate- bc i feel so alone in this right now.
Answer:
Taking your medication and seeing a therapist is good, but one other thing that may help is getting involved with church, prayer and so on. It really has done wonders for my cousin, who was in a bad spot and now my cousin is doing great, the happiest I have ever seen him.
If you are bipolar, then you must know you will swing from happiness to sadness (sometimes so fast and sometimes will take months). this swing is pretty much a matter of brain physiology and chemicals in it. it is only slightly related to your live events, live events can push you from one side to the other.
You need to have logic control on yourself, I mean if you feel bad then you need to know if its really a bad situation or it is just your brain neurotransmitter out of balance.
Hi, im bipolar also and it sounds to me that you are having a low , meaning your having the down side to bipolar i was on abilfy for about 6 months and it seemed to make me worse but all meds work diffrently on different people, maybe you can speak to your doctor about another med. or maybe add a antidepressent, they help , im on effexor , seraqual, and klonipin, but i also have thyriod disease, it took a little while but now i feel fine no more lows or highs i seem normal which at one time i never thought I would . If i were u i would ask my doctor whats going on and ask if he /she feels u need a antidepressant, HANG IN THERE U WILL FEEL BETTER!!! Good luck to you and CONGRATS TO U ON UR FUTURE WEDDING.
Few of the outsiders in life learn to be mean and petty. We all have been shunned so much we are now nice people and very honest in our words and deeds. If you have been with the winner-players and use their ways of thinking you need to stay with them. If you are a true outcast you are welcome to be a friend to the only good people on earth.
No, of course you won't always be 'mean and negative', but I do appreciate that at the moment it feels overwhelming. I'm delighted to know you are starting with therapy as well as medication. The combination of the two seems to be the best way for most people, but of course it may take a bit of time (a) to find out the best medication for you and (b) for therapy to start having an impact. Please don't give up the therapy - it can be quite frustrating for periods of time and you may feel nothing is happening, but this is just a part of the whole process.
You might like to read Kay Redfield Jamison's book "An Unquiet Mind". She is a psychiatrist who is also manic-depressive (her preferred term). I think she really lays out how it is and how good it can be.
All the very best for your forthcoming wedding - I don't think everything will be sorted by then, but with the support of someone who loves you, the years to come can be a wonderful partnership within which you can find how to be truly happy.
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
I am being emotionally abused, what should I do? who should I contact.?
my mom emotionally abuse's me. Like she neglects me and blames every thing on me, and if something happens then its my fault. I feel like such a horrible child, I dont know what to do. I want to tell the counselor, but all she would do is tell my mom and that would not help AT ALL!!
Answer:
If your counselor told your mom what you talked about then it would be a breach of confidentiality. The only person a counselor can discuss your case with is a supervisor, who is someone not above them, but a person who has agreed to be a confidente. They cannot discuss your case in any way outside of agreed protocols. They only talk together because the counselor needs to maintain a healthy state of mind. Taking on board others' problems can be very emotional and the supervisor is the outlet.
Has a counselor told your mom things that you wanted to be secret? If so, the counselor could get into serious trouble. There is a code of ethics, pages and pages long to protect all parties involved. The only time a counselor can breach confidentiality is when a person is a danger to themselves or other people.
I think that you should gain verification from your counselor that he or she will not discuss anything with your mom without your permission. Your mom will probably question the counselor, she will want to know how you are progressing, and she will want to know what you are talking about, parents are like that.
You do not go into much detail about the whys and whats of your situations, I understand that is hard to do anyway, but in order to understand where you are with your couselor, bite the bullet and ask, they are not there to judge, and you can say whatever you need to in order to progress to where you need to be.
You can do it, discuss it with your counselor, ask outright does he or she discuss what you talk about with your mom.
Good luck
A counselor islegally obligated tokeep what you share confidential. When you start to see her, she will tell you that she is onlyobligated to disclose info if she feels you are in direct danger or someone else will get hurt. She can discuss some assertiveness and rational-emotive behavior therapy techniques with you that certainly don't require her speaking with your parents.
No, actually. I'm a licensed counselor and I am in no way obligated to report anything to parents except in the aforementioned situations.
If you are really serious, you need to call your local Social Services office, Child protective services.
Well, the first answer is wrong. If you're underage, your parents have a right to know everything. The second answer is right. I hope you're not just mad. Because if you are, you have no idea how bad it can get.
Do tell the school counselor - she won't tell your mother. If what you describe to her is legally consider child abuse, then she is a mandated reporter, which means that she has to contact the appropriate law enforcement and/or social services agency to make sure that you're in a safe living environment. If it's not legally considered abuse, then she's not allowed to tell anyone (legally she could tell your parents if you're still a minor, but she doesn't have to, and would know that it's not a good idea). The only time she'd tell your parents what you say to her is if you are a danger to yourself or others, and your parents need to know to keep you safe. That means that if you tell her that you're planning to hurt yourself or someone else. The other time that she might tell your parents something is if you come to her with a serious mental heath issue that needs professional care outside of school, and that's the only way to make sure that you get that care. But she's definitely NOT going to tell your mom what you say about how your mom treats you unless you and the counselor agree together that it would be helpful for her to talk to your mom.
Some of the previous answers recommended contacting child protective services or the police. I don't think this is the right way to proceed. Emotional abuse is extremely difficult to prove, and for that reason is almost never acted on. Social services or law enforcement agencies would only be able to help if there was documented abuse. Unless they determine that your mother is legally abusive, there's not much they can do to help you, nor would they have the resources to do anything even if they were allowed to. Also, teenage girls often have strained relationships with their mothers, and there's a good chance that what you preceive as emotional abuse is actually just an ordinary bad relationship, which isn't a legal matter. For both of those reasons, it would be better to talk it over with your school counselor first and let her help you figure out how to proceed.
You sound so old to be asking this question. Maybe you should try to make some friends your own age around you and try to be a good kid and do stuff to help your mom and not hurt her? I know that it is hard to grow up, but surely all of us have to do this and once you have your own kids you will look back and see a lot of things differently.
talk to your counseler/she will call the proper authorties/because yr mother will find out regardless of who u speak with/because that is a form of abuse/go to childrens services and talk with someone/do not put this off/it may get worse/do u have other family u could go to /at this time it sounds like u need time away from mom/and she from y/do the above so u do not get hurt/god bless
You need the support and advice of an adult. Someone you feel safe with,If you do not have an adult you feel safe with you need to change counslers to one you feel safe enough to tell the truth to without betraying you. I wish I could help you more but this is the first step to take.
if this is severe you should contact someone of higher authority then a counselor because their all fags and say violence doesn't solve anything.
mabe your mom only does this because she knows u could do beter and your not showing her that u could and then she gets frustrated
you need to really step back and think about what you re saying. are you aware what abuse constitutes. i have a feeling you don't
i am not in your shoes but you sound a bit like a chapped up teen who dose not like what your mom tells yah. maybe you make her feel like shes a horrible mom. trust me a walk in the foster care system is no picnic. make it till your 18 and move or get a job at 16 drop out and make your way through life. i know this is not what you wanted to hear but it usually isn't
counslers are suposta keep everything that u say confidental.
and u need to start standing up to her.
dont let her do that to you.
just talk to ther counsler.
good luck
go to this website: www.ilovemeinc.com. read it, do what it says to do. then you will figure things out. you could even help your mom with her issues with the website.
Answer:
If your counselor told your mom what you talked about then it would be a breach of confidentiality. The only person a counselor can discuss your case with is a supervisor, who is someone not above them, but a person who has agreed to be a confidente. They cannot discuss your case in any way outside of agreed protocols. They only talk together because the counselor needs to maintain a healthy state of mind. Taking on board others' problems can be very emotional and the supervisor is the outlet.
Has a counselor told your mom things that you wanted to be secret? If so, the counselor could get into serious trouble. There is a code of ethics, pages and pages long to protect all parties involved. The only time a counselor can breach confidentiality is when a person is a danger to themselves or other people.
I think that you should gain verification from your counselor that he or she will not discuss anything with your mom without your permission. Your mom will probably question the counselor, she will want to know how you are progressing, and she will want to know what you are talking about, parents are like that.
You do not go into much detail about the whys and whats of your situations, I understand that is hard to do anyway, but in order to understand where you are with your couselor, bite the bullet and ask, they are not there to judge, and you can say whatever you need to in order to progress to where you need to be.
You can do it, discuss it with your counselor, ask outright does he or she discuss what you talk about with your mom.
Good luck
A counselor islegally obligated tokeep what you share confidential. When you start to see her, she will tell you that she is onlyobligated to disclose info if she feels you are in direct danger or someone else will get hurt. She can discuss some assertiveness and rational-emotive behavior therapy techniques with you that certainly don't require her speaking with your parents.
No, actually. I'm a licensed counselor and I am in no way obligated to report anything to parents except in the aforementioned situations.
If you are really serious, you need to call your local Social Services office, Child protective services.
Well, the first answer is wrong. If you're underage, your parents have a right to know everything. The second answer is right. I hope you're not just mad. Because if you are, you have no idea how bad it can get.
Do tell the school counselor - she won't tell your mother. If what you describe to her is legally consider child abuse, then she is a mandated reporter, which means that she has to contact the appropriate law enforcement and/or social services agency to make sure that you're in a safe living environment. If it's not legally considered abuse, then she's not allowed to tell anyone (legally she could tell your parents if you're still a minor, but she doesn't have to, and would know that it's not a good idea). The only time she'd tell your parents what you say to her is if you are a danger to yourself or others, and your parents need to know to keep you safe. That means that if you tell her that you're planning to hurt yourself or someone else. The other time that she might tell your parents something is if you come to her with a serious mental heath issue that needs professional care outside of school, and that's the only way to make sure that you get that care. But she's definitely NOT going to tell your mom what you say about how your mom treats you unless you and the counselor agree together that it would be helpful for her to talk to your mom.
Some of the previous answers recommended contacting child protective services or the police. I don't think this is the right way to proceed. Emotional abuse is extremely difficult to prove, and for that reason is almost never acted on. Social services or law enforcement agencies would only be able to help if there was documented abuse. Unless they determine that your mother is legally abusive, there's not much they can do to help you, nor would they have the resources to do anything even if they were allowed to. Also, teenage girls often have strained relationships with their mothers, and there's a good chance that what you preceive as emotional abuse is actually just an ordinary bad relationship, which isn't a legal matter. For both of those reasons, it would be better to talk it over with your school counselor first and let her help you figure out how to proceed.
You sound so old to be asking this question. Maybe you should try to make some friends your own age around you and try to be a good kid and do stuff to help your mom and not hurt her? I know that it is hard to grow up, but surely all of us have to do this and once you have your own kids you will look back and see a lot of things differently.
talk to your counseler/she will call the proper authorties/because yr mother will find out regardless of who u speak with/because that is a form of abuse/go to childrens services and talk with someone/do not put this off/it may get worse/do u have other family u could go to /at this time it sounds like u need time away from mom/and she from y/do the above so u do not get hurt/god bless
You need the support and advice of an adult. Someone you feel safe with,If you do not have an adult you feel safe with you need to change counslers to one you feel safe enough to tell the truth to without betraying you. I wish I could help you more but this is the first step to take.
if this is severe you should contact someone of higher authority then a counselor because their all fags and say violence doesn't solve anything.
mabe your mom only does this because she knows u could do beter and your not showing her that u could and then she gets frustrated
you need to really step back and think about what you re saying. are you aware what abuse constitutes. i have a feeling you don't
i am not in your shoes but you sound a bit like a chapped up teen who dose not like what your mom tells yah. maybe you make her feel like shes a horrible mom. trust me a walk in the foster care system is no picnic. make it till your 18 and move or get a job at 16 drop out and make your way through life. i know this is not what you wanted to hear but it usually isn't
counslers are suposta keep everything that u say confidental.
and u need to start standing up to her.
dont let her do that to you.
just talk to ther counsler.
good luck
go to this website: www.ilovemeinc.com. read it, do what it says to do. then you will figure things out. you could even help your mom with her issues with the website.
I am babysitting this little brat he wont listen to me what should i do?
i have tryed to tell his parents and ive tryed every threat you could think of! help me please!
Answer:
Stop babysitting him. Simple.
Don't babysit him anymore!
duct tape fixes everything
try to get permission from his parents to beat his ***.
five fingers to the face *****!
Get a switch, it'll work wonders. If his parents ask deny it.
tell the child dat they wont get candy if the dont stop doing what ever it is they r doing
when i used to baby site and the kids were missbehaving i would threaten to call their parents.. it usually worked.. or tell them that there parents will be very upset to hear that he is a bad little boy when they are gone..
Sorry,what did you say?
lock him in the closet.
thats what i do =) jkkkkkk
Make him respect YOU!
don't beat him up.
be patient and force your way until he does what u tell him to do. or you can tell his/her parents
REWARD HIM... Tell him that when he behaves, he'll get a sticker, or a piece of candy.. Tell him when you think he's acting great so he becomes proud of himself. In time, he'll learn what to do and what not to do.
Try a bribe , candy perhaps
If it is a little picannini and bounces up and down in his cot, try putting velcro on the ceiling.
you do have a choice-stop babysitting if you don't like the child. love works much better than threats. i wouldn't listen to you either if you called me a brat and threatened me all the time. try to have games to play or fun stuff to do. show love and you will get love in return.especially from a small child. thats all they want and have loads of it to give back.
dont threaten him. only use a threat if you can actually carry it out otherwise he learns that your threats are open and he wont take them seriously. also have a reward system. if he does something you ask him to give him a sweet. everytime he does something correct give him a sweet. or you could give him a sticker if he manages to get 10 stickers then he can have a chocolate bar oe something like that. but rewarding good behaviour works alot better than shouting at bad behaviour!
Use positive reenforcement. Bribes of ice-cream, half an hour stay up time, even a few dollars aught to do the trick. If not sit the kid down and have a little one on one chat with him.
Lock him in his room and slip food under the door until his parents get home,then take a pee on them and quit.LOL
well it seems like he is not scared of his parents so threathening to call them wouldnt work. Personally, I would pick him up and put him in his bed. I would tell him that if he didnt stop he would be put in his bedroom. or, my friends mom used to put her son in time out in the bathroom so he had no toys to play with. good luck, and dont babysit for them anymore unless they are givin you some major money!
listen just sit the kid down and tell him/or her if you dont listen to me and then say you will take away a favorite toy or tell someone who tells the little kid what to do after that just keep the kid in check.
smack him. lol j/k.. umm did you try the naughty corner. put him in a quiet corner in the house and tell him to sit there for 5-10 min. if he doesnt listen take one toy he likes away. good luck.. hope you find a way to help...
He isn't listening probably because you call him a"Brat" and threaten him. Sounds like your not good with kids, maybe a different job would be a good idea!
You don't have to baby-sit anymore. But if you want to continue just bribe him like tell him if you want candy you'll have to behave. It worked for me.
try to entertain him with long activities; such as action movies, video games. let him play on the computer, or put him in timeout. you need to let him know you are the authority. try giving him incentives to be good..such as if he listens give him a cookie, or sticker (depending on age) hope this helps...10 points please?!
It depends on how old he is and what he is doing. Send him to his room for a time-out if he is doing something that isn't allowed. Take him outside and play with him if he just has a lot of energy or play a game with him. Play a movie he likes and let him watch it. If you don't feel you can handle this, call his parents and tell them they need to come home. Don't babysit him anymore because you aren't mature enough yet.
Just say you`re not interested in babysitting for them anymore...
As much as it may piss you off, remember this sucky phrase parents always tell their kids which is indirectly aimed at something more for the babysitters... "It's your castle princess."
So yes, it's not your castle so don't care what the brat does.
kick his lil *** lol jk jk
take away something he loves and see if he listens
and it all kinda depends on how old he is
Depends on his age. Best thing to do is mostly to start listening to him. Give him attention, when he behave positive. You have to invest a lot of time an interest in a young child to win its trust
If you plan to continue sitting this or any other child, I would suggest taking a sitting class. There are some excellent ones offered ay many YMCA's and YWCA's. If you don't have one of them available, the may be some other group that offers the class.
Even the youngerst children can recognise an empty threat when they hear one. Similarly, when your voice goes up in pitch, they can sense your frustration. You cannot control anyone else when you are struggling to control yourself. Use whatever tricks you know to keep yourself calm and in control.
You are not a trainer or a parent, and it is not within the scope of your role or within your ability to teach this child anything new. You have to use the responses he already knows, and you can only learn these from the mother. Instead of complaining about his behavior, ask very pointed questions that begin, "How do you get him to..." or "How do you stop him from..." Find out what his usual schdules and routines are and follow them as closely as you can.
Answer:
Stop babysitting him. Simple.
Don't babysit him anymore!
duct tape fixes everything
try to get permission from his parents to beat his ***.
five fingers to the face *****!
Get a switch, it'll work wonders. If his parents ask deny it.
tell the child dat they wont get candy if the dont stop doing what ever it is they r doing
when i used to baby site and the kids were missbehaving i would threaten to call their parents.. it usually worked.. or tell them that there parents will be very upset to hear that he is a bad little boy when they are gone..
Sorry,what did you say?
lock him in the closet.
thats what i do =) jkkkkkk
Make him respect YOU!
don't beat him up.
be patient and force your way until he does what u tell him to do. or you can tell his/her parents
REWARD HIM... Tell him that when he behaves, he'll get a sticker, or a piece of candy.. Tell him when you think he's acting great so he becomes proud of himself. In time, he'll learn what to do and what not to do.
Try a bribe , candy perhaps
If it is a little picannini and bounces up and down in his cot, try putting velcro on the ceiling.
you do have a choice-stop babysitting if you don't like the child. love works much better than threats. i wouldn't listen to you either if you called me a brat and threatened me all the time. try to have games to play or fun stuff to do. show love and you will get love in return.especially from a small child. thats all they want and have loads of it to give back.
dont threaten him. only use a threat if you can actually carry it out otherwise he learns that your threats are open and he wont take them seriously. also have a reward system. if he does something you ask him to give him a sweet. everytime he does something correct give him a sweet. or you could give him a sticker if he manages to get 10 stickers then he can have a chocolate bar oe something like that. but rewarding good behaviour works alot better than shouting at bad behaviour!
Use positive reenforcement. Bribes of ice-cream, half an hour stay up time, even a few dollars aught to do the trick. If not sit the kid down and have a little one on one chat with him.
Lock him in his room and slip food under the door until his parents get home,then take a pee on them and quit.LOL
well it seems like he is not scared of his parents so threathening to call them wouldnt work. Personally, I would pick him up and put him in his bed. I would tell him that if he didnt stop he would be put in his bedroom. or, my friends mom used to put her son in time out in the bathroom so he had no toys to play with. good luck, and dont babysit for them anymore unless they are givin you some major money!
listen just sit the kid down and tell him/or her if you dont listen to me and then say you will take away a favorite toy or tell someone who tells the little kid what to do after that just keep the kid in check.
smack him. lol j/k.. umm did you try the naughty corner. put him in a quiet corner in the house and tell him to sit there for 5-10 min. if he doesnt listen take one toy he likes away. good luck.. hope you find a way to help...
He isn't listening probably because you call him a"Brat" and threaten him. Sounds like your not good with kids, maybe a different job would be a good idea!
You don't have to baby-sit anymore. But if you want to continue just bribe him like tell him if you want candy you'll have to behave. It worked for me.
try to entertain him with long activities; such as action movies, video games. let him play on the computer, or put him in timeout. you need to let him know you are the authority. try giving him incentives to be good..such as if he listens give him a cookie, or sticker (depending on age) hope this helps...10 points please?!
It depends on how old he is and what he is doing. Send him to his room for a time-out if he is doing something that isn't allowed. Take him outside and play with him if he just has a lot of energy or play a game with him. Play a movie he likes and let him watch it. If you don't feel you can handle this, call his parents and tell them they need to come home. Don't babysit him anymore because you aren't mature enough yet.
Just say you`re not interested in babysitting for them anymore...
As much as it may piss you off, remember this sucky phrase parents always tell their kids which is indirectly aimed at something more for the babysitters... "It's your castle princess."
So yes, it's not your castle so don't care what the brat does.
kick his lil *** lol jk jk
take away something he loves and see if he listens
and it all kinda depends on how old he is
Depends on his age. Best thing to do is mostly to start listening to him. Give him attention, when he behave positive. You have to invest a lot of time an interest in a young child to win its trust
If you plan to continue sitting this or any other child, I would suggest taking a sitting class. There are some excellent ones offered ay many YMCA's and YWCA's. If you don't have one of them available, the may be some other group that offers the class.
Even the youngerst children can recognise an empty threat when they hear one. Similarly, when your voice goes up in pitch, they can sense your frustration. You cannot control anyone else when you are struggling to control yourself. Use whatever tricks you know to keep yourself calm and in control.
You are not a trainer or a parent, and it is not within the scope of your role or within your ability to teach this child anything new. You have to use the responses he already knows, and you can only learn these from the mother. Instead of complaining about his behavior, ask very pointed questions that begin, "How do you get him to..." or "How do you stop him from..." Find out what his usual schdules and routines are and follow them as closely as you can.
I am at the end of my little rope and I am swinging back and forth about this?
I am trying to help a mentally ill loved one who is not willing to get help...things are escalating, but not in an emergency status.
How do I keep going.I can't turn away.
Answer:
Is it time to intervene? Can you talk to a mental health professional in your area and ask questions about interventions, forced admissions, etc. Is your loved one hurting themselves or other people? Who is at risk? That may determine how much the authorities will intervene.
Apart from that, being supportive is your only option. It is up to the individual to seek help and take action. If you have tried talking to them, and they understand how their behaviour is hurting you and others that care for them, then there's not much else you can do. Ultimately we are only responsible for ourselves.
Make sure, too, that you're taking care of yourself in this stressful time. Take time out, pray, walk, exercise, or do whatever relaxes you and recharges your batteries.
you can't do it alone, and don't take the burden all alone either. I'm sure you have other relatives you can seek help with if it's really an important life or death situation. If not, there's alot of help sites and or your can go to the hospital and they can refer you to people who help with mental illnesses. They are professional and would be able to help I'm sure.
Is there someone else you can get involved too, family member, a therapist?
If things aren't emergency status yet, just do the best you can for the moment. But if you think for one second there may be a problem, it's imperative you get help for him/her. Their life is the most important thing at stake.
just to be their. see if the person . their is help lines you can call for help. tell the person that you do care very much and you want to help them.
You better get some help,are that loved one will take you right down that hole with you.Be-live me,Go talk to a priest ,preacher are how about the parents,are someone you trust,but,don't wait any longer,go to-marrow ?
You can call the police and get a court order from a judge if the person is deemed a danger to themselves or someone else. Family members often help with this because they have the evidence. Don't give up- try contacting your local chapter of NAMI for support!
I have dealt with mental health issues personally and professionally.
If I see another in an evolving crisis, I encourage them to get help, in a way that is empowering.
For example, I start off with admitting that all of us have life stresses, and it is normal to not be able to deal with everything all the time that life throws at us.
Then I share experiences where I or someone I know had a difficult time dealing with some things in their lives.
After that I encourage them to talk about their feelings in an open way, without shame or guilt.
At a certain point I stress the need for someone who is not involved intimately as a friend or family member to help them sort through their feelings and develop an empowering way to deal with stress. I note that a person as a mental health professional can often give insight or objectivity in a validating way, without taking sides but still being supportive, if they are worth their salt.
Hopefully this helps some. Good luck!
Does this person have any physical ailments--any excuse to see a medical doctor. Have the medical doctor suggest an answer.
There should be a mental orginization in your area. If you do not know of any, try calling the Department of Human Services in your area. They might suggest something. There comes a point for the mentally ill that they are not able to make any decisions and could/should be made by others, preferrably a professional.
Try to do something before it gets to an emergency state.
Good luck.
I seem to remember coming across a solution where someone went to a different doctor, pretending to have the same symptoms, and crushed the medication in a mortar %26 pestle, or dissolved it in warm water, and added it to their food. Fortunately, you are in a different country: I have no idea of the local laws, and it is just a memory. See stress at http://www.ezy-build.net. (.net.nz/~shaneris) on page 7, and practise one of the 5 relaxation techniques on page 2, daily.
How do I keep going.I can't turn away.
Answer:
Is it time to intervene? Can you talk to a mental health professional in your area and ask questions about interventions, forced admissions, etc. Is your loved one hurting themselves or other people? Who is at risk? That may determine how much the authorities will intervene.
Apart from that, being supportive is your only option. It is up to the individual to seek help and take action. If you have tried talking to them, and they understand how their behaviour is hurting you and others that care for them, then there's not much else you can do. Ultimately we are only responsible for ourselves.
Make sure, too, that you're taking care of yourself in this stressful time. Take time out, pray, walk, exercise, or do whatever relaxes you and recharges your batteries.
you can't do it alone, and don't take the burden all alone either. I'm sure you have other relatives you can seek help with if it's really an important life or death situation. If not, there's alot of help sites and or your can go to the hospital and they can refer you to people who help with mental illnesses. They are professional and would be able to help I'm sure.
Is there someone else you can get involved too, family member, a therapist?
If things aren't emergency status yet, just do the best you can for the moment. But if you think for one second there may be a problem, it's imperative you get help for him/her. Their life is the most important thing at stake.
just to be their. see if the person . their is help lines you can call for help. tell the person that you do care very much and you want to help them.
You better get some help,are that loved one will take you right down that hole with you.Be-live me,Go talk to a priest ,preacher are how about the parents,are someone you trust,but,don't wait any longer,go to-marrow ?
You can call the police and get a court order from a judge if the person is deemed a danger to themselves or someone else. Family members often help with this because they have the evidence. Don't give up- try contacting your local chapter of NAMI for support!
I have dealt with mental health issues personally and professionally.
If I see another in an evolving crisis, I encourage them to get help, in a way that is empowering.
For example, I start off with admitting that all of us have life stresses, and it is normal to not be able to deal with everything all the time that life throws at us.
Then I share experiences where I or someone I know had a difficult time dealing with some things in their lives.
After that I encourage them to talk about their feelings in an open way, without shame or guilt.
At a certain point I stress the need for someone who is not involved intimately as a friend or family member to help them sort through their feelings and develop an empowering way to deal with stress. I note that a person as a mental health professional can often give insight or objectivity in a validating way, without taking sides but still being supportive, if they are worth their salt.
Hopefully this helps some. Good luck!
Does this person have any physical ailments--any excuse to see a medical doctor. Have the medical doctor suggest an answer.
There should be a mental orginization in your area. If you do not know of any, try calling the Department of Human Services in your area. They might suggest something. There comes a point for the mentally ill that they are not able to make any decisions and could/should be made by others, preferrably a professional.
Try to do something before it gets to an emergency state.
Good luck.
I seem to remember coming across a solution where someone went to a different doctor, pretending to have the same symptoms, and crushed the medication in a mortar %26 pestle, or dissolved it in warm water, and added it to their food. Fortunately, you are in a different country: I have no idea of the local laws, and it is just a memory. See stress at http://www.ezy-build.net. (.net.nz/~shaneris) on page 7, and practise one of the 5 relaxation techniques on page 2, daily.
I am at a loss. Any near Orlando Fl?
I am all alone here. My parents and other relatives are in NC. most of the people here speak spanish. My husband works alot sometime from 11 to 11. I am alone most of the time. I have always fought depression and getting worse, I am in treatment. I am so sad.so lost....I don't know what to do. I don't drive, due to serious illness. I have be honest to someone even if its a stranger, I have been medically sleeping when it gets to bad. Like right now.
Answer:
You are not alone...we are all here for you. You are more than your body. Share with us, who you are.
Hug Hug
Im in Ocala why dont you check yourself into an inpatient rehab somewhere and maybe they can help you
Answer:
You are not alone...we are all here for you. You are more than your body. Share with us, who you are.
Hug Hug
Im in Ocala why dont you check yourself into an inpatient rehab somewhere and maybe they can help you
I am an Indian male, now 22 years of age. I was molested once by my female cousin who was 4 years older to me?
I was 9-10 years old she was 14 years old I was in a boys school. It happened once for sure maybe 1 more time not sure.. i had gone to stay at my cousin's place for the summer vacation and was sleeping in her room in the same bed.. she told me to take off all my clothes and held my penis and shook it.. she also made me touch her breasts.. she was fantasising or something.. another time another female cousin tried to play husband and wife games although nothing happened... all these memories were forgotten n I didn't really recollect them until I was much older.. later I joined a co-ed 11th and 12th n now am in a co-ed engineering college.. Im very scared and uncomfortable in the company of women.. if a girl is walking in front of me i get scared that she might think that iam following her. when girls who are just friends, put arm around me for a foto or jus casually I cringe n freak..I want to behave normally n hav proper relationship with girls.. I don want to feel this way:( plz help
Answer:
Have you gone for any sort of counselling?
This is serious stuff.
Have you ever considered confronting your cousin
Do your parents have any idea about this?
You can email me if you wish.
I am a Student RN
Go to the counselor or your local Mental Health Organization and ask for some assistance to seek temporary therapy. You could be suffering effects of PTSD. It's not uncommon. Talk therapy is very helpful in this type of situation.
Instead of being scared, be happy and enjoy.
There is a school of thought/psychology that helps people identify automatic thoughts (assumptions you are making that may or may not be based on past experiences, but none the less interfere with your everyday life and relationships).
I am not a trained counselor or psychologist but I think that you would benefit from speaking to someone trained in the area of cognitive behaviour psychology. This may help with the automatic thought of thinking that the girl "might think that I am following her". It may also help you associate the touching of arms for photos with the current situational context-as a gesture of friendship - rather than the historical context of abuse. hope this helps
There is help for you. It is just a matter of you reaching out. Unfortunately, it is very difficult for us to reach back, through ByeDr.coms. Seek out a counselor, perhaps at school. Also, reading the following on-line articles may help more than you're apt to think:
Comfort for Those With a "Stricken Spirit"
- "Repressed Memories" - Did It Really Happen?
http://watchtower.org/library/w/1995/11/...
http://watchtower.org/library/g/1993/10/...
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2000/12/...
Coping With Post-traumatic Stress
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2001/8/2...
Read The Bible Online
http://watchtower.org/bible/index.htm...
your perfectly normal.. except for ur unusual thinking..
things happen at times.. and sumtimes create bad memories.. wht ur feelin right now iz a perfectly normal behavious and u have nothing to worry bout.. jus make urself comfortable and try not to think of wht has happened to u.. get urself involved wid frenz includin gals..
Answer:
Have you gone for any sort of counselling?
This is serious stuff.
Have you ever considered confronting your cousin
Do your parents have any idea about this?
You can email me if you wish.
I am a Student RN
Go to the counselor or your local Mental Health Organization and ask for some assistance to seek temporary therapy. You could be suffering effects of PTSD. It's not uncommon. Talk therapy is very helpful in this type of situation.
Instead of being scared, be happy and enjoy.
There is a school of thought/psychology that helps people identify automatic thoughts (assumptions you are making that may or may not be based on past experiences, but none the less interfere with your everyday life and relationships).
I am not a trained counselor or psychologist but I think that you would benefit from speaking to someone trained in the area of cognitive behaviour psychology. This may help with the automatic thought of thinking that the girl "might think that I am following her". It may also help you associate the touching of arms for photos with the current situational context-as a gesture of friendship - rather than the historical context of abuse. hope this helps
There is help for you. It is just a matter of you reaching out. Unfortunately, it is very difficult for us to reach back, through ByeDr.coms. Seek out a counselor, perhaps at school. Also, reading the following on-line articles may help more than you're apt to think:
Comfort for Those With a "Stricken Spirit"
- "Repressed Memories" - Did It Really Happen?
http://watchtower.org/library/w/1995/11/...
http://watchtower.org/library/g/1993/10/...
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2000/12/...
Coping With Post-traumatic Stress
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2001/8/2...
Read The Bible Online
http://watchtower.org/bible/index.htm...
your perfectly normal.. except for ur unusual thinking..
things happen at times.. and sumtimes create bad memories.. wht ur feelin right now iz a perfectly normal behavious and u have nothing to worry bout.. jus make urself comfortable and try not to think of wht has happened to u.. get urself involved wid frenz includin gals..
I am an Alcoholic?
I am 34 male and an alcoholic. I`ve kown I`ve been one since I was 18. I`ve been on camprol %26 anti abuse. It is a very hard disease for me to get off.
I think I`m am loosing some friends but its because they are starting to have kids and have been in a long term relationship I think or I don`t ring them.
Answer:
Thanks for the background info. Now give us your question and we will be good to go.
You're NOT an alcoholic.
yes, fix it.
So what is your ?
This isn't even a question. If you feel like spilling your guts, try a support group.
and your question is?
You need to go to AA and get your life together. I am a drug addict, but I have really turned my life around thanks to support groups like AA and NA. I am 30.
You actually should ask a question here instead of make a statement.
Ok, you know the bad news about alcoholism. No lecture. Try the Smart Recovery program, you can find them on the web. It is a good approach to facing and dealing with your problem.
Good luck and take care.
Okay, first of all alchoholism isn't a disease. I'd consider alchoholism a sort of condition rather than a disease. Look up more support groups that you haven't tried yet, or try to ween yourself off of your addiction. This is often what smokers do when they want to quit (other than just going cold turkey, which I would also recommend).
Good luck!
First you ask if you are an alcoholic then then you say you are one. I think that if you say that you are then you probably are.
yes if thats what you want to call yourself ,only you can change who you are and what you do in life,.
in order for other people to notice you have changed you have to do things that are not common to you and what you usually do.
and stoping something that has no value to your life is one way ,. think positive about becoming someone who is not addicted to alcohol and be some who is a good example of what it is to recover from something that is not good.
Always call a friend just keep in touch
Good luck, by staying sober all things are possible...keep drinking and nothing will work out...maybe you should check out AA. That way you wouldn't be alone in trying to stay sober.
Bobby I'll be praying for you. The first step is that you admitted it. My husband came from an alcoholic family and he's 69 and it has effected him all of his life. His Dad was not only a drunkard, but very abusive to his family. Please call AA and let them help you. I'm sure your friends will stand behind you and their kids will have an Uncle Bobby that they can be proud of. Hang in there.
If you think you are an alcoholic, then you probably are. Good for you in that you can at least admit that you have a problem. Now, you need to get on the road to recovery. If the medications your on aren't working, tell your dr and try soemthing else. Get into therapy if you have to. Do whatever it takes. Most alcoholics do eventually lose their friends because people can only take so much and can only do so much for others. If they're starting to have kids, then they don't want their kids around that environment. They don't want their kids to think that's cool, etc.
I understand it is a very hard disease to "get off". However, you are still in the addictive cycle and "addictive thinking" Here's why I say that.
You blame loosing friends on them having kids and having long term relationship .. so you "don't ring them". This is classic addictive thinking. I'm gonna lay it on straight to you. Please don't take offense ... this is a reality check for you.
You are likely loosing friends because you are an active alcoholic.That means your behavior is likely unacceptable around their spouses and kids. Many people are "single" and have maintained connections with friends who have married and their children. I'm godfather to many friends children and a regular visitor to their home.
You don't ring them up because that would cut into your drinking time. You "rationalize" something like "Oh, they don't want to talk with me." OR "They didn't call me, so screw them, I won't call until they do." You see the object is you don't give a sh*t about them. You care about your booze and your drinking buddies.
So instead of screwing around on ByeDr.com get your drunk, blaming butt into treatment, get it to an AA meeting, get it finding a sponsor, and get it OUT of sitting in self-pity, denial, and rationalization.
On the UP side ... you admit you have a problem ... you are 90% there when you adimit a Problem ... now do the other 10% an d DO the Solution.
It may sound cliche but have you tried prayer? I say this because of my eperience with depression. The doctors put me on pills and I took them for a while but they didnt work so after some time I started praying and seeking a closer relationship with God. If you dont already attend one try finding a church. If your not realy into the religion label go for a non-denominational church. Im not going to say I was cured the next day but it helped. Throughout the year I gradually improved and was able to do all the things I love to do before such as being with my friends. Sometimes I still get down but now I just pray and the sadness fades. So I know its not exactly the same problem but im confident that this would help. Anyways I hope things get better for you. God Bless.
Congratulations. I believe you have achieved step one. But you are right, you will lose friends, and continue to have fewer friends if you don't conquer the alcoholism, disease or not. You will hurt the people who love you and you will hurt yourself by damaging your health.
How To Find An A.A. Meeting
Alcoholics Anonymous is worldwide with A.A. meetings in almost every community. You can find times and places of local A.A. meetings or events by contacting a nearby central office, intergroup or answering service of U.S. and Canada.
http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org/en_f...
http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org/en_f...
Only you can determine for certain whether or not you are an alcoholic...But, having to make an educated guess...I would say you are...I know how you feel...I too, am a recovering alcoholic %26 addict.Life is soooo tough dealing w/this affliction...Sometimes it's a battle every day to stay clean %26 sober...Go to AA--they will help, and support you!! Whatever you do..DON'T GIVE UP!!!
Check into a rehab. You can turn your life around, but it doesn't mean that it is going to be easy. I do have to admit though, you are taking a step forward by actually admitting that you are an alcoholic. AA is a good program. Just please try to get help before you decide to drink and drive and kill someone or get an unwanted DUI. Good Luck...
My advice is to stop complaining and writing on here about it...and DO SOMETHING!! Get help, get ACTIVE, sitting on the computer won't help you stay sober!
it is a very good thing that you realize that you do have a problem, that is a very big start toward your first step of helping yourself.I know what you are going thru honestly, I lived with an alcoholic for 7 years, I tried very hard to change him because he really meant a lot to me but then there were a lot of abuse and a lot of times he was so drunk he did not know the extent of the abuse,verbal, emotional,physical. my advise to you friend is first of all you admitted that you have a drinking problem and that you are an alcoholic,next is what are you going to do about it? are you going to let alcohol take full control over your body-because right know you are letting it have full control of you.if you do not get some help now you may end up with scherosis of the liver and that is one of the worst things to see someone go thru,it is very heartbreaking,and sad,my husbands brother passed away from it he was a major alcoholic, beer and cold pizza for breakfast,then in the afternoon he would have a snack and wash it down with a straight shot or two of vodka, his favorite drinks were Cobra a cheap alcoholic beverage here in the U.S.A.,and Vodka sometimes chased down with a small glass of orange juice or he may mix it.Alcohol was his life and it took his life,he suffered with scherosis of the liver and was extremely sick and broke out with sores all over his skin,I cried until there were no more tears left to cry,there was nothing that could of been done, he went to AAA meetings and he even quit for a very short while,but he always went back to the bottle.Please get some help! I know that you said that you have tried different things,try going into a mental hospital if that's what it takes,get control of your life back do not let it kill you.I'm sure that you have dreams and goals in life that you would like to full-fill, and maybe you would like to have a family of your own but first you have to gain control of your life and build your life up slowly-find some hobbies that you enjoy that does not consist of drinking,go to a movie,relieve some stress, take a few deep breaths my friend and feel the breath of life while you still can.put your heart into quitting,dont back down sure it's hard and you get frustrated and you might even slip up once,but dont let it take you down,take a good look around you there are good reasons in your life to make this happen I'm sure,like family and friends, they may be bitter toward you and you may be bitter toward them but that's probably because you ache for the freedom from your addiction dont lose your whole life to alcohol, yes it is a disease and a very bad one that will consume your life quickly and tradgically dont let it happen to you my friend wake up and take a new hard look at your life and call your local mental health center tell them that you are an alcoholic and you want help because you are determined to fight this disease and win. GOOD-LUCK my friend.
AA will help you. I started going to meetings and working the steps almost 9 years ago and have not had a drink since. If you've tried AA and been unsuccessful, try it again. As we say, it works if you work it . . . but sometimes you can't work it until you are ready.
Good luck.
I think I`m am loosing some friends but its because they are starting to have kids and have been in a long term relationship I think or I don`t ring them.
Answer:
Thanks for the background info. Now give us your question and we will be good to go.
You're NOT an alcoholic.
yes, fix it.
So what is your ?
This isn't even a question. If you feel like spilling your guts, try a support group.
and your question is?
You need to go to AA and get your life together. I am a drug addict, but I have really turned my life around thanks to support groups like AA and NA. I am 30.
You actually should ask a question here instead of make a statement.
Ok, you know the bad news about alcoholism. No lecture. Try the Smart Recovery program, you can find them on the web. It is a good approach to facing and dealing with your problem.
Good luck and take care.
Okay, first of all alchoholism isn't a disease. I'd consider alchoholism a sort of condition rather than a disease. Look up more support groups that you haven't tried yet, or try to ween yourself off of your addiction. This is often what smokers do when they want to quit (other than just going cold turkey, which I would also recommend).
Good luck!
First you ask if you are an alcoholic then then you say you are one. I think that if you say that you are then you probably are.
yes if thats what you want to call yourself ,only you can change who you are and what you do in life,.
in order for other people to notice you have changed you have to do things that are not common to you and what you usually do.
and stoping something that has no value to your life is one way ,. think positive about becoming someone who is not addicted to alcohol and be some who is a good example of what it is to recover from something that is not good.
Always call a friend just keep in touch
Good luck, by staying sober all things are possible...keep drinking and nothing will work out...maybe you should check out AA. That way you wouldn't be alone in trying to stay sober.
Bobby I'll be praying for you. The first step is that you admitted it. My husband came from an alcoholic family and he's 69 and it has effected him all of his life. His Dad was not only a drunkard, but very abusive to his family. Please call AA and let them help you. I'm sure your friends will stand behind you and their kids will have an Uncle Bobby that they can be proud of. Hang in there.
If you think you are an alcoholic, then you probably are. Good for you in that you can at least admit that you have a problem. Now, you need to get on the road to recovery. If the medications your on aren't working, tell your dr and try soemthing else. Get into therapy if you have to. Do whatever it takes. Most alcoholics do eventually lose their friends because people can only take so much and can only do so much for others. If they're starting to have kids, then they don't want their kids around that environment. They don't want their kids to think that's cool, etc.
I understand it is a very hard disease to "get off". However, you are still in the addictive cycle and "addictive thinking" Here's why I say that.
You blame loosing friends on them having kids and having long term relationship .. so you "don't ring them". This is classic addictive thinking. I'm gonna lay it on straight to you. Please don't take offense ... this is a reality check for you.
You are likely loosing friends because you are an active alcoholic.That means your behavior is likely unacceptable around their spouses and kids. Many people are "single" and have maintained connections with friends who have married and their children. I'm godfather to many friends children and a regular visitor to their home.
You don't ring them up because that would cut into your drinking time. You "rationalize" something like "Oh, they don't want to talk with me." OR "They didn't call me, so screw them, I won't call until they do." You see the object is you don't give a sh*t about them. You care about your booze and your drinking buddies.
So instead of screwing around on ByeDr.com get your drunk, blaming butt into treatment, get it to an AA meeting, get it finding a sponsor, and get it OUT of sitting in self-pity, denial, and rationalization.
On the UP side ... you admit you have a problem ... you are 90% there when you adimit a Problem ... now do the other 10% an d DO the Solution.
It may sound cliche but have you tried prayer? I say this because of my eperience with depression. The doctors put me on pills and I took them for a while but they didnt work so after some time I started praying and seeking a closer relationship with God. If you dont already attend one try finding a church. If your not realy into the religion label go for a non-denominational church. Im not going to say I was cured the next day but it helped. Throughout the year I gradually improved and was able to do all the things I love to do before such as being with my friends. Sometimes I still get down but now I just pray and the sadness fades. So I know its not exactly the same problem but im confident that this would help. Anyways I hope things get better for you. God Bless.
Congratulations. I believe you have achieved step one. But you are right, you will lose friends, and continue to have fewer friends if you don't conquer the alcoholism, disease or not. You will hurt the people who love you and you will hurt yourself by damaging your health.
How To Find An A.A. Meeting
Alcoholics Anonymous is worldwide with A.A. meetings in almost every community. You can find times and places of local A.A. meetings or events by contacting a nearby central office, intergroup or answering service of U.S. and Canada.
http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org/en_f...
http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org/en_f...
Only you can determine for certain whether or not you are an alcoholic...But, having to make an educated guess...I would say you are...I know how you feel...I too, am a recovering alcoholic %26 addict.Life is soooo tough dealing w/this affliction...Sometimes it's a battle every day to stay clean %26 sober...Go to AA--they will help, and support you!! Whatever you do..DON'T GIVE UP!!!
Check into a rehab. You can turn your life around, but it doesn't mean that it is going to be easy. I do have to admit though, you are taking a step forward by actually admitting that you are an alcoholic. AA is a good program. Just please try to get help before you decide to drink and drive and kill someone or get an unwanted DUI. Good Luck...
My advice is to stop complaining and writing on here about it...and DO SOMETHING!! Get help, get ACTIVE, sitting on the computer won't help you stay sober!
it is a very good thing that you realize that you do have a problem, that is a very big start toward your first step of helping yourself.I know what you are going thru honestly, I lived with an alcoholic for 7 years, I tried very hard to change him because he really meant a lot to me but then there were a lot of abuse and a lot of times he was so drunk he did not know the extent of the abuse,verbal, emotional,physical. my advise to you friend is first of all you admitted that you have a drinking problem and that you are an alcoholic,next is what are you going to do about it? are you going to let alcohol take full control over your body-because right know you are letting it have full control of you.if you do not get some help now you may end up with scherosis of the liver and that is one of the worst things to see someone go thru,it is very heartbreaking,and sad,my husbands brother passed away from it he was a major alcoholic, beer and cold pizza for breakfast,then in the afternoon he would have a snack and wash it down with a straight shot or two of vodka, his favorite drinks were Cobra a cheap alcoholic beverage here in the U.S.A.,and Vodka sometimes chased down with a small glass of orange juice or he may mix it.Alcohol was his life and it took his life,he suffered with scherosis of the liver and was extremely sick and broke out with sores all over his skin,I cried until there were no more tears left to cry,there was nothing that could of been done, he went to AAA meetings and he even quit for a very short while,but he always went back to the bottle.Please get some help! I know that you said that you have tried different things,try going into a mental hospital if that's what it takes,get control of your life back do not let it kill you.I'm sure that you have dreams and goals in life that you would like to full-fill, and maybe you would like to have a family of your own but first you have to gain control of your life and build your life up slowly-find some hobbies that you enjoy that does not consist of drinking,go to a movie,relieve some stress, take a few deep breaths my friend and feel the breath of life while you still can.put your heart into quitting,dont back down sure it's hard and you get frustrated and you might even slip up once,but dont let it take you down,take a good look around you there are good reasons in your life to make this happen I'm sure,like family and friends, they may be bitter toward you and you may be bitter toward them but that's probably because you ache for the freedom from your addiction dont lose your whole life to alcohol, yes it is a disease and a very bad one that will consume your life quickly and tradgically dont let it happen to you my friend wake up and take a new hard look at your life and call your local mental health center tell them that you are an alcoholic and you want help because you are determined to fight this disease and win. GOOD-LUCK my friend.
AA will help you. I started going to meetings and working the steps almost 9 years ago and have not had a drink since. If you've tried AA and been unsuccessful, try it again. As we say, it works if you work it . . . but sometimes you can't work it until you are ready.
Good luck.
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