Saturday, October 31, 2009

I absolutely HATE being alone?

i used to be content being alone and now it terrifies me. it makes me sad, almost depressed and i feel sad and overwhelmed when im alone. I used to be able to handle not seeing my boyfriend for a few days and now its like I need to see him daily. I think it may have something to do with this. I just had my tonsils out two weeks ago. my mom took off work the first week and took care of me and my boyfriend(we have been together for two years) took care of me the other week. I just feel so alone and scared when nobody is there. Whats wrong with me? Why do I feel like this? ive NEVER been like this before and its worrying me. Today when I left my boyfriends house i cried and hes worried about me too. I just dont know what to do. any kind and SERIOUS advice would be wonderful. Thank you SO much!
Answer:
i am like you.but dont lose heart. if you are all alone it is not necessary that huma should be your companion . radio cds and tv can be your best friend. listen to music always and you will get rid of all the fears.i am practicising on me and it does not make me feel alone if i listen to the music and read good books also.
i think the best person to answer these questions is you. you may need a therapist or a good friend to help you a little. maybe you just need to spend more time on your hobbies or get new ones to feel better.
I enjoy my own time.
Today went to the gym, shopped, got some clothing. Read the newspaper. Watched TV went to the pool. Did this computer stuff. Nice day and no one to pester me.
it sounds like your suffering from depression ...scientists found that some food coloring cause depression ..my advise is do some research of the affects of junk food...
Angie, You have not recovered completely from the operation on your tonsils.

We think of this as a minor surgery but your body is having a strong reaction.

See your doctor, you could have a low grade infection or??

Best of luck.
It sounds to me that you're using your boyfriend as a coping mechanism because something else is happening in your life that is upsetting you.

My boyfriend is like that. Whenever things are going bad in his life (ie: he was taking nine college classes %26 had to work nights at 7/11 to pay his rent because his financial aid came through late) he wants to be with me 24/7.

he said that I make him feel better even if I'm just laying on the bed watching tv while he uses his computer.

I always laugh at my own mistakes Why is that?

when I have remind my own past mistakes I laugh very loudly.
Answer:
That is great. Mistakes are always perceived as negative because they feel negative. But most of my mistakes have been turning points in my life, because I choose to learn from them, instead of let them get me down.
Its always healthy to laugh , especially at ones own mistake. that way you learn from them, get over them with laughter and move on with your life..

Take care..
Bcn_mimosa
I have the same question. Sometimes I can't stop laughing.
Maybe u find it funny. Maybe thats the way u handle your mistakes. Different people react differently to their msitakes.
you may be masking your anger or upset regarding this .
or you may find some of the things you did really funny.
Well, as long as you learned from them, I guess you just feel like you were a fool for doing them in the first place...I hope that your past mistakes WERE laughable, and not at the expense of others.
Life is too important to be taken seriously.
-Oscar Wilde

;)

Hypnotism for depression?

can you get hypnotized for depression? Does it work? is it expensive?
Answer:
Hypnosis works for many things, e.g. phobias. I guess it could also work for depression. You'd have to make sure you found a really experienced practitioner, though, who knew what they were doing. You should also request that they tape all the sessions and give you a copy of the tapes after each appointment.

Antidepressants are the best thing for a severe depression, so don't rule them out.

Hypnotherapy and phobia's?

im thinking about going to hypno for a certain phobia for medication i've tried CBT, talk therapy, and other techniques with no success does hypno work?
Answer:
It can be more effective if you can visualise well and also if u can relax whilst there, basically you are just guided through visualisations, didn't work for me but everyone is different, if it's affordable then i would say have a try, some Hypno guys also incorporate NLP and CBT with the therapy, it's a good thing if they record the session so u can also use it at home, let us know how you go on?
You have to believe. I was taught by a doctor it got me off meds . and gave me confidence and helps to relax
please look at an answer i gave a couple of days ago ref hypnotherapy
please do not have it
these people can screw with your mind and it ruined my life and it has taken me four years to try to recover from this
are you seeing a psychiatrist, perhaps you could see someone as reccomended by your doctor

does your phobia ruin your life

do you think you could tell someone what it is

you can email me if you like and talk about it if you like

i am thinking about you because i have a phobia aswell but i am just trying to live with it

best wishes for the future

xxx

vici

Hypnosis make u forget?

can u use hypnotherapy or hypnosis downloads to forget something really stressful that someone told you?
Answer:
no. If the stressful thought is consuming, the best way to lessen the amount of time its on your mind is to deal with it directly and why its so bothersome. Try EMDR (which has some in common with hypnotherapy but gives you more control) - some patients have reported forgeting about the traumatic stressor and all find it decreases in emotional intensity.
Forcing a negative thought or experience away (repressing) causes other problems in your psychological well-being because it will come out in other ways, whether physically through headaches, stomachaches, and illness, or undefined anxiety or depression, irritability or rage. Whatever was told you you've got to deal with it, as painful as that may be, so you can move past it. Best wishes.
no, but they normally charge a lot of money and you won't forget that.
downloads? well in any matter, it just depends on if your brain is able to work with the hypnosis. everybody's difrent. just try it and see, it wont hurt if its that important
I havent heard of hypnosis downloads before- they sound interesting!

Anyway, lol.
Hypnotherapy, perfesionally, might be able to make you forget something. Im not really sure, just a guess =]

If it works anyway, Im not sure, coz, Ive never experienced it, but, yeah Im not sure.

You could try it thought, it shouldnt hurt :]
goodluck with it !
No hynosis makes u remember things that u forgot. Additionally one can use hynosis to find sub conscious level reasons for stress
I have never used hypnosis, so I am not sure. But if it works to help kick the habit of smoking then I would try it.
No. What you should do is just face the issue so you can move on. One on one hypnosis maybe, downloads - NO.
No seek advice from your doctor.
no they can't.. they even make you remember things you've forgotten.. to fill in the spaces in your subconscious mind.. downloads will just make you spend money on something that can't help you out the best way you want it.. it can relieve your stress for a while but sooner or later in life, you will still remember it.. don't rely too much on these things.. rather, try to divert your attention on something else to get rid of stress the normal, practical, and usual way... good luck.
I don't think so.

Hypnosis make u forget?

can u use hypnotherapy or hypnosis downloads to forget something really stressful that someone told you?
Answer:
Hi:

I am not sure if you can. But if you could, DON'T. Instead of ignoring or trying to forget something that is troubling you, you need to face the situation head on and deal with it. Only then will you truly let go of it and not be bothered from it anymore.

Don't run and hide from something, you have the courage and strength to handle it head on. Now, go deal with it so it doesn't bother you anymore. You can do it.

Take Care

Hypnosis clears ur mind??

can u use hypnotherapy or hypnosis downloads to forget what someone told you?

if so? please provide links

greatly appreciated!
Answer:
I don't know of any hypnosis downloads. I suspect they'd be expensive if you can find one, as classes to teach you hypnosis are expensive. You could pick out one of many books on self-hypnosis at amazon.com. I think that would be cheapest.

From my experience with hypnosis, I wouldn't expect it to remove a memory, but I think it's worth a try to decrease the autonomic responses and emotional upset you have with some memory.
I am sorry, but the answer is NO.

Here is the reason: The more you concentrate on what the person told you, the less likely you will be able to forget it. If you try to hypnotise yourself out of that memory, how would you do it without repeating what it is you want to forget? You can't, see?

What you CAN do, is to hypnotise yourself into switching thoughts whenever the thing you want to forget comes up. You don't even need hypnosis for that. Here's how you do it:

Pick something that takes a lot of attention, like a project from school or work. Then every time you think the thing you don't want to think about, use that as a trigger to mentally work on the project. You get two for one in this way. You stop thinking about what you want to stop, and you end up very successful at the project. :)

No kidding.
No hypnosis is not an trick. Hypnosis is a state of mind in which you mostly can reach to thinks forgotten, pushed away. Hypnosis should be done by a hypnotherapist.
You can reprogram your thought, without hypnosis. Just replay in your mind this person telling your whatever they told your all the way through as best your can. Then imagine having something strange occur right thought the middle of the remember situation. Say Bullwinkle and Rockey waltzing through the room playing basket ball with a very big apple. Replay that ridiculous scene through your mind while your that person stand there with their mouth open in surprise not speaking at all. Do that three times. Then fold the scene like a sheet of paper, tear it up and blow the image towards the sun. Memory re programmed. It works for little stuff.

Hyperacusis, myoclonus, SID, involuntarily shuddering on loud noises and going down hills?

I'm still trying to figure out why I shudder/spasm and grimace and want to cover my ears at loud music (normal by other peoples' standards) and when going down hills. I can't find ANYTHING. I feel really isolated and alone right now (normally you can find out about anything on the internet!), so if anyone know about this please speak up!

It may be psychogenic. Distracting/self-control works to a certain point, and yet it is a physical reaction. I tried listening to really loud (my standards) music for a few seconds, and I was tense, forcing myself not to tear the headphones off. I even had tears streaming down my face. It's just this stupid uncontrollable spasming thing that happens... I lose control at going down hills or loud music (they both feel the same to me, like my stomach is jumping) and spasm. Sometimes I even do it at the thought of music or hills! Anyone know anything about this? I've been researching nonstop.
Answer:
Either neurological or psychogenic. Definitely see a neurologist. I am not sure of the neurological significance of hyperacusis, myoclonus or SID. Doesn't SID have a neurological etiology??

I would rule out neurological manifestations before entertaining psychogenic causes (perhaps, situational anxiety or a phobic response). Even in light of the fact that "distraction" helps ease symptoms doesn't necessarily imply a psychogenic problem. Part of the issue may be symptoms that have developed as a conditioned response to an unresolved underlying neurological problem. Symptoms masking (and as an effort to adapt to) other symptoms.

If symptoms are affecting your ability to function on a day-to-day basis and there is a wait to get in to see a neurologist, perhaps treating the symptoms might not be a bad idea for the short term. Desensitization training may help in the in term, maybe Ativan would help situationally?? Hypnosis could help as well (i.e., guided relaxation by an QUALIFIED professional)...

EDIT: You may also want to look up migraines with aura. Do you get a headache within 24 hours of these reactions?? Have you kept a diary of your symptoms?? Could be a good thing to do so that you can have a record to show the neurologist.

May want to look up aura without migraine, as well. Just anecdotally here, auras do not necessarily result in migraine. They sound a little like what you describe.

I know that migraine sufferers are often people who get 'motion sickness'. I also know that what most people *think* are migraines, aren't migraines at all.

You could also try posting your question in the "Medicine" section. Actual MD's, like Mdgreg C, who has answered your question above, can be found 'hanging out' in that section.
Try a different class of music and carrying something when you walk down hill. Do something different to change your usual thought pattern about the events.
First of All, I don't Know the Basis of you Problem. it has to Have Some Basis, is There Pain Associated With this? Are There any Other Manifestations (Not Mentioned Above)? Any Drugs Which Give you Some Relief? Not to Leave you With Nothing, See Migraines, Perhaps a Neurologist Could Help you.

Hyper activity in an infant?

I am a first time mom and my 2mnth old seems like she is ADD/hyper active, she always kicks in her sleep and, her whole body tenses up like colic but no crying and no pain. She just seems like a spring thats all wound up sometimes, like when I pick her up when shes sleeping she doesnt even lie against me she is all tensed up and I feel like Im carrying a solid mass of muscel not a baby. Or when I try and give her a bottle or nurse her I have to hold her hands down with force to get anywhere near her mouth, not like she doesnt want to eat but like shes too excited to realise there is food behind her hands. Just curious cause this is my first so I dont know whats normal, and her dad and his sister and her kids have ADD so I thought it was likeley but I wasnt sure. I do plan to ask her pediatrictian but I wanted to make sure this isnt normal baby stuff.
Thanks in advance
Answer:
I can't get into too much detail b/c you should definitely take her to a pediatrician. But having said that, I think that 2 months is waaaay too young to have ADD/hper activity. Since this is your first child, you have no grounds to compare her to your other children. She could very well be just fine...or she may have a problem that is not ADD. I personally have a problem with people (even doctors) who are quick to label a child ADD. This condition doesn't usually manifest itself until well into late chilhood and puberty. A 2-month-old's brain is not fully developed yet to have such problems or lack thereof. Some babies are just more hyper than others; some are quiet and reserved; some are fussy...but why put a label of an illness on her right away, even if genetics do play a role? You probably have a perfectly healthy baby girl who might be colicky or a bit tense. Just my two cents. Get her to a doctor though just to be on the safe side. Good luck.
i don't think you really have anything to be concerned about. i think it has to do with her being a baby and doing what most babies do and developing her own personality. most young children and babies are naturally excitable, easily distracted, and sometimes hyperactive, that is a completely normal part of childhood. and some kids are just stubborn and tense from the very start. it doesn't necessarily mean she has add or adhd. if this is really bothering you, go ahead and talk to a pediatrician about it. i'm sure they can help you out and give you some good advice.

Hy, I was wondering, how many hours does an adolescent (18 years) needs to sleep to keep in a healthy shape ?

I've recently started sleeping more often and longer, than usualy, owing to an article posted in a FAQ forum.
Since then I've found results that are bothering me.
It seems that there is no standard in terms of a sleeping schedule.
Answer:
Enough sleep to realize your not an adolescent, your an adult.

Most adults are supposed to have about seven hours of sleep. The best way to figure out is to see how much you sleep each night, and if you're still tired during the day, then you should sleep more.
a good 8 hours. i sleep about 9 on some nights. =)
Eight hours is the recommended time for adults.
a lot of people would say 8 hours i think sleep til u get enough give it 10 hours cuz sleep i doubt will kill you :P
I would challenge those who cited the 8 hour recommendation to find out where that number came from. While "everyone knows" 8 hours is recommended, I have never heard anyone even claim that is based on any actual study. The optimal time varies from person to person. The only way to determine how much time any one person needs is experimentation.

Hwo do you know if you have chronic depression?

What are the symptoms of chronic depression, how can someone become so deeply depressed so suddenly, how can someone get back out of it without medication?
Answer:
The shortest and best answer is to talk to your doctor about this. It's usually a mistake for a person to try and diagnose themselves. I used to work as a psych RN for over 20 years and have Chronic Major Depression now.

If you are clinically depressed you NEED to see your doctor and let him/her decide whether you need medications or not. If you had a broken leg would you ask people on ByeDr.com what you should do? I hope not. I hope you would call for an ambulance to take you to a hospital.

When you got to the hospital ER, would you tell the doctor, "I think I broke my leg. I want you to fix it but I don't want you to put a cast on it." I hope not. I hope you would let the doctor do whatever he/she thought would be best for your leg.

A doctor has to go to school for a long time to be able to diagnose whether a person is depressed or not. That is his/her job, why not take advantage of all that schooling?

Best wishes and God bless you.
Depression that lasts over 6 months is considered chronic.
Here is a site that has all the symptoms listed, hope it will help!

http://www.hmc.psu.edu/healthinfo/d/depr...

The best thing for people with depression is to keep busy and keep their mind busy on positive things.
Talk with someone. Everyone that you tell how you are feeling will have something to say that will help you get back on track. Friends and family will get you there. They are the ones who truly care what you are going through. Medication could help for short term but could cause you trouble if used long term. So if you go that route be very careful. Try talking with someone first. Good luck my friend.
Chronic depression causes a great deal of mental pain and anguish lasting several months. It's cause is a chemical imbalance in the brain, which is where medication comes in. Without the needed medication to balance the chemicals in the brain, a person can do things like exercise, think positive, eat right or live clean, but nothing will help. The brain will still be off balance. This can happen out of nowhere with no warning.
See the quiz at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... on page 2, and employ those treatments.
Go to
http://www.about.com
and type in depression in their search box (upper right corner). You can read about causes, symptoms and relief--you can also take anonymous quizzes to see if you are, in fact, chronically depressed.

It will tell you at that site, that regardless of what you learn there, it is no substitute for seeing a health-care professional. If you think that you are chronically depressed, you really would need some counseling and possibly medication.

One over-the-counter remedy that helps many people is called St. John's Wort (for a healthy mind--it says). It is in the vitamin aisle of pharmacies, supermarkets, Walmart, etc.
NOTE: If you are prescribed an antidepressant, you cannot take St. John's Wort with it. ALSO: If you are much under the age of 18, prescription antidepressants, and even herbal ones, could make you worse. So, read labels carefully--and speak to a pharmacist when in doubt.

Walking outdoors in nature helps depression
Comedy movies, TV, etc. may help
Cheerful music
Exercise
Talking to people who can make you laugh
With chronic depression, you usually cannot contribute your depression to a particular event or "episode" in your life but is an ongoing "feeling", way of thinking , state of being that does not seem to break. It is usually deep rooted, or you can be genetically predisposed and it IS an illness. Brain chemistry is still largely a field of exploration and doctors still know little about it. Medication is sometimes a life saver when you cannot "escape" the depression on your own. You can get out of it without meds depending on the severity of your depression - therapy (talk therapy) and therefore learning to change your way of thinking has actually been proven to (naturally) change brain chemistry. Exercise has also proven benefits for chronic depression and anxiety for it naturally increases serotonin levels in the brain. Sometimes still meds are necessary and studies show medication along with psychotherapy provide the best results long term!
Symptoms are similar to Major depression but they last all the time without person feeling better. In this case, i would chec if he or she is not Bipolar II or III.

Husbands medicine preventing pregnancy... How to cope?

My hubby and I have been married 4 years. We have no kids and have been trying for almost a year. He's taking medicine for depression for PTSD/anxiety/epilepsy due to a severe head injury a couple of years ago. (Problems have stemmed from adding an anti-depressant recently.)

Anyhow, we've tried about 10 different medications, but each had the same side effect. ** TMI WARNING **He is able to get an erection but unable to ejaculate. I know it's nothing else, because the problems start day 1 of taking the medicine. Then we would stop it, wait a week, and try another medicine. Same thing- first day, same problem. He is so hypersensitive to medications, and gets a lot of side affects.

I just lost my father, and my mother committed suicide in '03 after a decade long battle with M.S. A baby would really fill a void inside of me and would complete our family. It's been all I can think of for almost a year now.
Answer:
It sounds simple , but...

have you considered adoption (either foreign or domestic) and/or becoming a foster parent?

If your husband's health depends on these medications, and he isn't projected to be off them any time soon, how about considering some other options for completing your family?

Best of luck to you,
~M~

p.s. In the meantime, you may be wise to consider seeking out some supportive services for yourself. Losing both a mother, a father, and (potentially) the chance to have a biological child represents SIGNIFICANT loss. In addition, you are caring for a spouse with significant psychological and physical issues. Psychotherapy and/or peer support groups may be an incredible help to you.
i think ull have to go for a assisted reproductive technique.. like iui( http://www.sharedjourney.com/iui.html... )or ivf( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/in_vitro_fe... )... iui is cheaper(2000-3000$) as compared to ivf(15000$).. these r per cycle rates.. and u may need 2-3 cycles.. but most clinics have a cost share technique(check this.. http://www.advancedfertility.com/ivfrisk... )
its basically takin some sperms of ur husband and implanting it in ur fallopian tubes at the time of ovulation
if u go abroad like in india u can get these proceedures much much cheaper
(iui- 700$, ivf- 2000$ ).
You love the man and realize he needs the medication for a quality of life. Many, but not all psychotropic medications as well as other medications like those for hypertension, diabetes and prostate problems, cause impotence.

If you want a child that badly, adopt a child who desperately would need a loving home. You are just as much of a mother, loved and needed, by an adopted child as a biological one.

As before you do have a child, you need to seek counseling for those issues from your family. The child is not there to fill "the void." You need to resolve those issue to ensure you are a better and more support parent of the needs of the child, and not yourself.

Husband with borderline personality disorder with bipolar tendencies?

There are times when he gets so down, and his attitude is contagious! I hate feeling that depressed.but it's so hard when that is the atmosphere in my home! It's not all the time but it does happen...what to do? And he refuses to take his medication..HELP!
Answer:
While Bipolar can be treated with medications, there doesn't seem to be any effective treatment for Borderline Personality Disorder. The best thing you can be doing is getting some counseling for yourself, so that his attitude will become less contagious. You can't make him better, but you can make yourself feel better.

Best wishes to both of you!
I have bpd too.Your husband can't help how he feels.It doesn't really matter about the medication though as bpd is not classed as a mental illness more a mental health problem.Medication can sometimes help a little bit but it only lessens the symptoms.It's more to do with the way he's been brought up.
What do you want to do about it? Are you the caregiver or is he able to handle taking care of himself if you are not at home? Trying to get someone to take their medications, once they get it in their head they won't take it, can be impossible. If it is affecting you so negatively it is making your quality of life bad, something has to give. When you are able to get through to him so he can understand, you need to explain this to him. Tell him how you feel! Ask him to take his medication for your sanity. If you have children explain to him how it affects them as well. This is going to sound a little rough, but try some tough love. Sometimes it takes threatening a person that if they don't take their medication, you can't keep living like this. I am only saying it this way because unless you make them see how serious this is to you, (serious enough that you feel like leaving) they don't see it and won't try. It may be that he doesn't like the way the medications make him feel, drowsy or dizzy or flat. If these are some of the reasons, ask his Doctor if he can start taking them at night before he goes to bed, instead of during the day. I started taking my medications at night for the same reasons. Good Luck!
I am very sorry to hear about your situation, very sorry. I know it is not an easy thing for you. I have BPD, so I can understand.

Is there anyone else he might listen to (brother, friend)?

Huge blow to self esteem and can't pull out?

My parents wanted me to go to medical school. I used to, but I changed my mind and wanted to go to dental school. When I told my mom about my acceptance to dental school, she majorly downplayed it. I mentioned that my friend from law school didn't want to go to his graduation but his mom told him she wanted him to go to his graduation because she wanted to come and watch him walk. She told me "I wouldn't be upset if you didn't want to go to your graduation. That would be fine." It is my doctorate degree. You don't blow off your graduation when you are becoming a doctor. It was a HUGE blow to me and I can't get it out of my head. I think I'm not good enough for them...or that I have disappointed them. Any suggestions?
I will be the first in my family to receive a doctorate.
Answer:
I'm a retired neurologist, and I can see why someone might rather be a dentist than do what I did. I wouldn't. I chose what I wanted. Most others choose what they want, either way. Some might see a different in status between one and the other. What do they know?

There may be some miscommunication about what your mother meant by the words you quote. I doubt that's everything that's upsetting you, though. When a memory sticks in my mind as you describe, it's not that the event in question is the problem. It's that this event is a symbol of the problem, a handle by which to hold and examine the problem, to think of comebacks that I wish I had said at the time to express my feelings, like the feelings you express here about your graduation.

I'm sure there's some truth in your thought that you're not good enough for your parents. It might be an exaggeration of the truth. It may be that if you could talk this out with your parents honestly, you'd find that they just have a little disappointment related to their fantasies of their son the doctor, who could give them free medical advice instead of just telling them the importance of flossing enough, whom they could hold over someone they know with the son who is merely an optometrist. Then maybe your parents could tell you they know how silly that is and demonstrate their love for you in respecting your feelings and in whatever ways people do that beyond mere words.

If you think you can have that conversation with them, go ahead, but my guess is you wouldn't be telling the story this way if that were the case. I can't tell what the real issues are here from just what you describe, but I suspect you would be better off seeing a psychologist and getting healthy from your side before having THE TALK with your parents.

I never wanted to talk to my parents that way. Then my mother said something demeaning to my wife when I was 30. It amazed me how much anger boiled up in me knowing how wrong she was in that and how I wasn't going to let her be that way yet again. It wasn't the best way to let that happen. I'd go see a psychologist if I were you.

By the way, I skipped my graduation from medical school. I was out of town for my last rotation and the internship where I was going from there was also elsewhere, so I didn't go back. It didn't mean as much to me as it means to you. There's nothing wrong with that. People feel what they feel. There's no right or wrong in feelings. It's in actions that there is right or wrong. Understanding that might help you forgive your parents for whatever their feelings really are. I think a psychologist would be good to help you with that.
Explain you feelings to your mom and ask her about her feelings. You will never really know unless you talk to them personally. And you never knoiw, it might have all been a misunderstanding.
I don't know, your mom's attitude towards it seems incomprehensible to me.

CONGRATULATIONS! Take pride in your wonderful accomplishment!
Every relationship, including parent/child, is a balancing act. It may very well be that your mom had to balance her pride at your accomplishment with her feeling that you, as an adult, should be free to decide whether or not to go to your graduation. Examine this situation in the light of other interactions with your mom, then decide what the likely explanation is. At that point, if you feel there is something to discuss with your mom, do so. and remember, it could just as easily be "Mom, thanks a lot for trusting me to make the right decision about graduation" as "Mom, you really hurt me by not caring about my graduation."

Best wishes, Doctor!
I believe that you only live one life, so you need to do what you want to do. Nobody else can live your life. If you are happy with what you have done then that is all that counts. Your mother will get over it. If you had done what they wanted you to do you would have been miserable in the end. You and only you can make yourself happy and be the master of your life. I think its great that you followed your heart and did what you want. Your mother still loves you and only wants the best for you. You need to talk with her privately and let her know how you feel..Good luck and congratulations
Hey !! Graduating from dental school is, by any standard, a major accomplishment. Tell your mom that you are going to your graduation and so is she.

Even if you come from a family of brain surgeons and rocket scientists, you are still at least their professional equal. Hang in there.
I think you are doing just fine. A doctorate is a big deal congratulations! I kinda understand what family background you are coming from. My parents are kinda the opposite they have never said for me to be anything and there are some times where they kinda hint that I should be a lawyer to take over my dads business. I think i would rather eat s*** and die. I guess my question is why would your mom want you in med school? Was it an old dream of hers? Would she feel better saying her son is a MD? Dentists actually make some realllll good money. Its hard but you have to keep focusing on what makes you happy. If they dont like what you are doing ask them what is up. Tell them how all this makes you feel.
Parents want a better life for their kids than they had. This often means that they see only one way to achieve it.
As a dentist, people still call you Doctor, you still get to boss nurses around, you still get letters after your name, and you still make a very comfortable living.
Personally, I'd be rubbing that doctorate in their faces every chance I got. Give them a discount on dental care and harangue them into coming in for frequent checkups, then criticize their flossing.
maybe your mom is crazy. thats a huge accomplishment that i dream of achieving one day! you should be proud of yourself and dont worry about what she says after all once you are rich and famous you wont need her!
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Howcome I get really really depressed when I am about to start my period?

I am taking prozac, and it is working, at least I think so and so does my family and husband but now I think that i am about to start my period and now I am starting to feel really depressed. I just want to cry. Sometimes I have horrible thoughts about ending everything. I dont want to die, but I think that my period is causing my depression to be worse. Is there anything that I can do. I have only been on prozac for 2-3 weeks. I hate feeling sad. I want to be happy again and I want to have my life the way it was. any helpful ideas? I am seeing a doc and a counslor.
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Hormones play a big role in how we feel and can make our emotions change or as some say cause PMS or make a person moody. I would suggest talking to your OB/GYN and perhaps having some blood test ran just to make sure your hormone levels are ok but this is typical before starting your period just as when a women is pregnant and right after she will experience many, many different mood changes, hence post- pardem depression. So just in case it would definitely would not hurt to make sure your levels are ok. I hope you start feeling better. It is up to your Dr. of course but often times even with these natural changes your body experiences your medication *might need to be adjusted. I am only 34 and went into menopause early (of course this is not your case. Mine was a medical issue) and was already on anti-depressants and I had no idea what I was in for. Fortunately, I was able to get on hormones and everything is ok now. I was astonished at how much it changed my moods. Your situation will be easier to control with med adjustments or help from your Dr. and the sooner you go the better. Talk to your husband if you can and explain that this occurs at this time if he is not aware and that could also help having his extra support during these times too. Good luck~
Your female hormones are letting you know that you are truly a woman. maybe it would be a good idea to talk about this with your doctor and check out your medication with him/her.
I'd ask your doctor.
Sounds like an extreme case of PMS.
HORMONES-just ride them out like a wave-this too shall pass
As for the Prozac, it takes more then 2-3 weeks for it to work, so you may have had a placebo effect. Look inside yourself and do some writing about the stressors in your life. You need to be gentle with yourself just before your period.
Oh, and one other thing, Prozac can CAUSE depression in some people, as everyone's chemical make-up is different, so be sure that the Prozac isn't making things worse for you!
(I am not a doctor but from personal experience I know that)
right before the period a lot of women get depressed, even if they do not suffer from depression. It is a very common pre-menstrural symptom, and it is oe of those that don't happen every time, sometimes you may get depressed, other times hyperactive, maybe angry etc.
If you recently started medication for depression it will probably take some time for your body to adjust to processing it at different times (stress, period etc) and adjust the hormones it is producing by itself...
It takes 4 or more weeks to get the full benefits of Prozac. Plus, hormones during this time are causing your emotions to swing. I, too, suffer from clinical depression and understand the feelings you are having. Realize that in a few days the blues will pass. Continue with your doc and counselor. Ask them for ways to get through the monthly "hormone" days. Good luck to you.
I want you to stop! Please get a glass of ice cold water! Take several deep breaths! now put on some relaxing music! Yeah, I'll admit that it's kind of strange to have a straight man who isn't a doctor answer your question. but you can make it trust me! I've seen several ex girlfriends survive much worse! If you need to vent and your husband and family won't be there for you, then you can contact me via Email. Or IM when i get that fixed! You can use The Email account associated with my Answers Account!

How would you surpervise 15 clinical staffs?

As a manager going into new mental health nursing team leader post
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Have the main goal for the post. Understand your responsiblities .Also understand your strength and weaknes matain your strength and try to improveyour weakness before assuming the post.
Firstly asses the style what the previous leader was using .Check if it will be sweatable for you .Introduce your self to the staff. Tell them about your goal and ambitions.Which role would they play in the process.Reassure them you won't change every thing at same time and you will only change what is not right.
Let them know what you want .Act by example .If they ask question try to answer honestly. If you don know tell them you will try and find out for them .
Be fair when dealing with them praise when praise is due .Criticisise constructively .Remind them to be patient when dealing with mental health people .To be at their level of thinking . They are still humanbeings just they percieve things differently.

Among the staff there will be prsonal differences so you need to use interpersonal skills eg,conflict management
Also use problem solving skills interms of crisis and decision making .Effective communication eg verbal /non verbal.

Evaluate them to see their strength and weaknesses. Correct them where they are wrong eg ,using using of restriction' s .bedrails etc Don,t let them do wrong things eg in the dementia unit staff will ask you if they could use other patients hipguards while awating for the laundry thats wrong .Avoid explotation make sure evrybody understand his/her role.
Firstly,conduct a personal interview of each staff member. Secondly,divide them into teams. (not more than 2 ). Choose the best qualified as Team Leaders. At this point you only have to personally supervise 2 individuals instead of 15. Team leaders should be the best qualified. (Based on experience first, qualification second,and Character thirdly. Team Leaders should also be the most responsible.Dependable ! If you have anymore Qs麓 on management drop me a mail !
As a new manger i would allocate a team leader. ( or have two groups who are have a team leader) It will make it easier for you and if your not there then the team leaders can stand in for you.. All the best in your job ! What would i know! except that communication is vital in any type of job... makes the job easier and a happier environment to work in. The hardest part is to allocate the team leaders without upsetting others good luck chuck.

How would you like to be told that you have a double funeral to attend of teens in your family?

Due to the misuse and abuse of these psychiatric drugs? Do you think that would have made it any better for you then it did for me two years ago?
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Its unfortunate... but a real part of life. A tight warm hug. My sympathies are with you and your family ~

How would you know if you were going mad.?


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I thought I was going mad but my counsellor said you wouldnt "Think" you are mad, you would see your actions as totally normal and would think nothing of it. You would not be able to justify your thoughts and feelings. It really put my mind at rest I can tell you.
You HELP might ME start I seeing THINK things I that AM are A not BANANA there.
i figure if you know you're going mad then you're still sane. its when you're unaware that you are truly mad. hope this makes sense
go take a depression quiz. google it.
Symptoms vary from person to person, and it doesn't just happen over night. Most likely you are not going mad, just having an anxiety attack. If possible, see a doctor you might need Paxil or something similar to help you.
1st stage: you start to grow hair on ur hands
2nd stage:u look for the hairs on the bac of the hand
Crazy people never think they are crazy.
One of the main signs is constant repetition.
One of the main signs is constant repetition.
Ive been told that you would be completely unaware, but im sure someone would let you know. you wouldnt believe them though because you would be mad so there wouldnt really be any point them telling you, so i wouldnt worry about it too much .
You will have a sign if your office which says "you don't have to be mad to work here, but it helps".

Only a mad person would find that funny.
Sounds like you are just anxious.I would not worry about it...because people that go mad are not usually aware of it.

How Would You Handle an Employee With a Strong Personality?

It doesn't matter what I ask this employee to do, another way of doing the task is suggested. I'm not exaggerating when I say, "without fail" this is the case. I am not rude in my response and often ask this employee what is the reasoning behind their suggestion and how is it better? I listen and then make a final decision. Sometimes I have taken the suggestion and sometimes I haven't. On occasion the employee who is taller than I, will intently enter "my space"...not alot, but somewhat, to question a final decision. There is an "air" of anger and "how could you be so stupid"? I continue to hold my ground without giving the impression, I'm ruffled. This employee is a relative of a friend and they are thrilled this employee would have the opportunity for this experience; however, it is "wearing" to have the constant challenge. Does anyone know of a "disability" or personality disorder that is associated with this kind of pronounced behavior?
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There is so many personality disorder, i would not know where to start. This person may not have a personality disorder, it could just be the way they are, and they want to prove how smart they are, and some people just think that they are always right. You may have to let this person go, even if they are a relative of a friend. You really do not need the added stress that this person is causeing. Have a talk with them and lay down some rules for them, and tell them you are only going to give them so many warreing, and you are their boss they are not yours. they need ot listen to you.
be more assertive when you deal with person, and let them know, this is not going to keep up, if they do not change their attiude.
roll it off your back, there are 2 people at my work like this, too. the best thing is to ignore the behavior, not the people. we spend too much time at work w/each other to let it bother you too badly. im a strong personality, too, and find its too hard to try to clash. it really does work.
Perhaps the employee wants to be the boss not the one to take direction?
Since you are the one in charge, how about sitting the employee down, in a slightly lower elevation than yourself. Even if they sit in a chair and you on a desk. You decide the location. Tell them that their constant questioning of direction is not always welcome or necessary. Perhaps you can ask them to put in a written report periodically if they want to raise new ways of doing things but in the meantime you ask them to just follow direction.
I would bring him or her into my office. Make sure their is a much smaller chair for them than the one you are sitting in. If your chair has a height level extend it to the maximum height. Have paperwork written up documenting your meeting and discuss your disapproval with their actions. Let it be known on no uncertain terms that you are their Superior and are the one in charge around there,Explain that this is their first warning on this. that you do value them and their ideas but in the end you are the one who makes the final decisions,If this behavior does not stop bring them in again and write up a final warning. 3rd time is termination.
Why do people always look for the least likely answer or try to excuse bad behavior by classifying it as a "disorder? This guy is challenging your authority because he thinks you are stupid and he thinks he could do your job better than you could - Simple, eh? You know this but yet you look for an excuse for this clown. If it's as bad as you say then you need to tell him that his actions are bothering you and why they are bothering you - wait and see, once you do he will get defensive and start projecting the problem as just being your imagination - then you can take the stance that YOU are the BOSS and that if he does not like it he can quit. I advise documenting the encounter and all subsequent confrontations with this employee as well - just make sure he knows that you are documenting them and provide him with an oportunity to write down his side of the story.

How would you deal with a situation where you were attacked by someone for no logical reason?


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Defensively, of course. Aggresively, if necassary.
do you mean physically or emotionally?
I would avoid that person in the future, especially since you put this in mental health. Are they insane? Avoid further confrontation.
you can't figure out an illogical problem logically.

How would you deal with a family member who has terminal cancer?

I am 21 years old. My mother wants to die at home and I am going crazy!
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Sorry to hear about your mom. I dealt with my mom's brain cancer, by being with her as much as possible, surrounding her with pictures of the family, taking flowers and tending to her needs. She had to be put into the hospital to live out the rest of her days. She could understand the things we were saying, but could only respond with her eyes. I wish my mother could have lived her last days at home. The hospital was soooo cold. If I were in your shoes, I would let my mother be at home where she is the most comfortable, unless she needs 24/7 round the clock care. After all, she has done so much for you and letting her live out her last wishes is really important to her and I believe you will be glad you did make that small sacrifice, in the long run.
Get help from hospice. They can help guide you and advice you and support you. Just be there for her and let her know that you will always love and support her.
just be your normal self around her=this is why she wants to be at home so she can be with family
I would grant her dying wish, as she will be more comfortable at home. I am sure that it will be hard on you, but at least you wont have any regrets later on.

Good luck!
Just be as positive and comforting as you can. She wants to be around the people she loves, so love her
it will be hard for you / and the rest of the family / just be kind /caring / and if you have hospice / in your area / contact them / and they can help
You need to spend as much time as you can with your Mom. Ask her about her life before you were born, about the day you were born, etc. Kind of use this time to get a nice history of her. You might even want to use a tape recorder so you will have it after she dies. It would be nice to have your kids hear their Grandma years from now. Of course, she wants to die at home. Would you want to die alone in a hospital bed with no one near you? Having nurses stick you with needles, wake you up to take your temp, etc. Be as nice as you possibly can and after she has died, you will be at peace knowing that you did the best you could. You will have no regrets. Say a little prayer for patience. And don't forget to tell her how much you love her.
don't go crazy everyone is going to die soon anyway my grandma had cancer but she is dead but tell your mom to live everyday like it's her last and be blessed
think about the shoe being on the other foot. you take care of your mother the way you would want to be taken care of. keep your head up you will get through it and you will be blessed every step of the way. i work in a nursing home were people throw there family mebers in there and forget about them. good luck
People who have cancer want to be treated with repect and dignity; other than that they want to be treated as they always were by those who love them.
not every body has or will have cancer. if its your turn then let it be. be strong to face the harseness of life. life is not a bed of roses, even roses have thorns. live by it. don't get crazy other wise you'll land in an institution for mental health.
she is going to drive you crazy. get over yourself. this is a point in your life that unfortunately you are too young to have but life has delt this card to you. it is not a time to be selfish. You need to be loving and caring even if you don't want to be. It is the adult thing to do. this is going to sound harsh...if you can't deal with it walk away...consequences your mother's broken heart and your reqret 20 years down the road.
Talk to the people at Hospice.

Hospice has volunteers that will come over to help you out while you're caring for your mother at home. They helped my friend deal with her Grandfathers passing at home and she thought they were wonderful.

I'm sorry that you have to handle this on your own, but take comfort in knowing that there are resources out there to help you through.
I agree with the hospice idea. They not only help your mother, but they are very good at explaining what is happening to your mom in words you can understand. They will make sure she is comfortable so all you'll have to do is spend quality time with her. Don't lose the opportunity.
I never could have made it through my Dad's death without them.
Hi, you should watch the movie called "Step-mom"
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its really sad. but i think you should spend all your time and energy with her. video tape some fun things you two do...HOPE I HELPED!
Wow, sorry to hear that. I went through that with both my parents in the last two years, but I'm alot older than you. Hospice is a wonderful source, as someone else mentioned, also if you have a visiting nurse association locally, they can be a God-send to help with things; also your pastor %26 church family, if that applies. You don't mention if you have other family members to share the load, I'm hoping %26 assuming you do. Share things with each other, feelings %26 thoughts, it helps to talk about it. There are so many extenuating factors you do not mention, like finances. If you can afford to keep her at home, by all means do it. If you cannot handle the situation, I'm sure your mom would understand (I'm an older mom %26 I know I would want things to be easiest for my kids) if another facility is necessary, sometimes it can provide the care untrained persons cannot do in the home. Just be there for her no matter what or where, you will not regret it later on.
First, you have my sympathy and prayers...this is and will be a very difficult time for you and your family. I am very fortunate to not had a family member in such a situation, but I have had acquaintances who have.

I understand that your local hospice can provide you with innumerable resources from support with direct care, respite care, education and support groups. Hospice is an organization that helps families and patients faced with a terminal illness and wish to remain at home. I would urge you to contact the hospice organization in your area. The National Hospice Organization: http://www.nhpco.org/templates/1/homepag... or the state hospice directory: http://www.hospicedirectory.org/... are good places to start. Your mom's oncology department should also have information about hospice and other support resources.

I am sorry you have to deal with this challenge and I do wish the best for you and your family.
Call with any problem, anytime:
Girls and Boys Town National Hotline
Phone: 1-800-448-3000
Email:Hotline@girlsandboystown...
org. They have the trained professionals to help with this.
If that is what she wants, honor her. It is her wish. Ask if she wants some outside help through local hospice to see her through. Be there for her and accept the reality of the situation. Do all you can to make her last times as comfortable as you can. Your young age makes losing a parent very hard. I was in my 50's when my parents passed. I don't know what your religious beliefs are, but there is really something beyond our petty, mundane existence that is greater than any of us. Don't go crazy. Life is a journey, and we all have different paths. Some are easy, others are hard. Remember, God will never push you beyond what you are able to stand. I wish you well.
I am so sorry you are facing this time. I went through the same at age 22 with my mom. With the assistance of home hospice she was able to spend most of her time at home untill she needed morophine for pain control. If you have the assistance of family and a good medical team, I would try to follow her wishes to your best ability. It will not be easy but you will have peace of mind that you are doing your best to keep up her wish. If however it comes to the need for outside assistance to take over please do not be hard on yourself. Give her the most love you can. May you find peace and comfort at this time. God bless!
I just went through this with my grandfather. Hospice is a great help. They help the family cope and help the cancer patient stay at home to live out the rest of their days and to die peacefully. I found it easier to let go of my grandpa. I knew when the end was near and I also knew that he was ready to go. I felt a sense a of peace knowing that my grandpa was ready to meet his maker and to be reunited with my grandmother.

It is never easy letting go of someone you love, and it certainly is not easy being the one to care for them until they go, however I think you will learn a lot about yourself and your mother. I also think you will find strength when you most need it. It is a selfless act to honor your mothers wishes to die at home but the sacrifice is small considering all she gave you in the years you had together. Contact your local hospice and they will help you. They are wonderful caregivers and have a world of support and knowledge.

I wish you well and know that no one will think any less of you if you can not do this.

How would you approach a person wanting to commit suicide?


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Be yourself, be kind, be open, don鈥檛 try to overcompensate, create distractions, go for a walk or hike together, cook dinner together, try to refrain from negative speech. Be supportive, don鈥檛 be critical. Reassure the friend. A good friend asks difficult questions about the depression, in hopes that the depressed friend can feel comfortable to ask for help!
Carefully
just be friendly
give them space and dont talk to them until they call you for help
keep them occupied, ask them to go places
they are probably depressed
A lot of times what someone wanting to commit suicide is after more than anything is just the feeling that someone cares, and is willing to listen. I'd offer to listen, and if he was willing to talk then when he was done I'd see if I could help him find his way out of the suicide by offering advice and suggestions on where he can find help for his problems.
I WOULD DEFIANTLY TRY TALKING TO HIM. IF YOU ARE ALREADY FRIENDS WITH THAT PERSON THEN TRY TAKING THEM SOMEWHERE THEY ENJOY BEING EXPLAIN YOU ARE THERE FOR THEM AND YOU ALWAYS WILL BE. TRY TO GET TO THE SOURCE AS TO WHY THEY FEEL SO BAD WHERE THEY WOULD TAKE THERE OWN LIFE AND TALK TO THEM TELL THEM YOU WILL GO WITH THEM TO GET HELP AND YOU WILL STAND BEHIND THEM 100% GOOD LUCK!!
say die man
Most people don't want to commit suicide so tell them if this is what they really want to do then go ahead...most of the time reverse pshcology works and then you get them some help...
Slowly, with care, and show actual concern for their life.

Most times people attempting suicide are asking for help, calling out. They feel alone, forgotten, or lost. LIke no one cares, or they did something and THEY see it as wrong and unforgivable, and the only way out is suicide.

They won't hear that' it can be worked out, unless you give them examples that make sence to them. So I guess first I'd listen, then try to be as positive as I can. I won't lie, but I"ll be honest and admit maybe I'm not the one to help them, however I'll stand by them and help them find the right help, the right person that can assist them.

I think that's the key, offering to be there so whatever the problems are they won't be alone in dealing with them.

Being lonely has to be the worse feeling. I'd take that pain away.
No one should be lonely.
I would tell him how much he means to me or other people and how much I would miss him if he weren't around . I would talk to him about his family if they were on good terms, but not if I knew they were at big time odds. Usually there is a grandparent or favorite aunt or uncle that is respected, so you could talk to him about them and how hurt they would be if he left this way. If he will allow it, pray for him too.
Of course, you realize you need to get him some professional help too, right away.
I shall approach that person coolly and try not to make him commit that. I shall make him abstain from doing this. All I do ,considering everything from his point his point of view. I shall try to understand the problem from his position.
Well... I've been to the point of committing suicide myself because of family problems. I found that if I thought of how many good things I have and love in my life I would snap out of it. I thought of the love for my grandmother. That totally snapped me out of it. I wouldn't want her to see me leave like that. Anywho... just if you know the person and it is a friend and you know about their life tell them about the things and memories that are positive, also remember to tell them that his close family like (grandparents, brothers/sisters, close friends, and relatives) that would be devastated and torn. Good luck. ^.=.^
I had a friend that went through this last year, and I'm glad to say she's still here.

What I did was talk to her all the time, hurting people need someone to listen to them, so they can let all of their pain out. I also called many Doctors and they gave me advice, to mainly listen, to have patience. One thing they said was that "it's, not your fault if she hurts herself" I thought about that for a minute and it's true, it's out of my control. I told her to call me anytime she wanted to talk and she did. And slowly, she began letting go of the pain, she began to heal herself. And I thank God for the words he gave me when it came to talking to her. I must admit I was a little scared about the whole thing.

My advice to you is, be a rock for your friend, listen to all the concerns he/she has, and try to get them professional help. There are many local places that offer free assistance regarding this matter, but most importantly have Patience, no matter what happens be patient.
Very, very, carefully. Let them know that you are there for them.You are going to have to be a good talker. If your not get somebody there that can.If the person has a family tell them how much they are going to hurt the ones that love them. You are just going to have to talk and to know all the right things to say. Like I said, if you can't do it, get somebody there that can.

How will I die?

I have always thought I would kill myself at some point, well I should say when I was young I thought I would be killed by a atom bomb, but now it seems I will live out my life and take what I have coming.I just wonder how it will go? Will it be fast or slow?Will I get pain medication or will I suffer?Will I be alone? Will it be a relief or will I want to live?
Answer:
When it's least convenient.
God knows
Only God knows the answer to that question, and no one here on Answers is God!
You must be having fun.


When you cease to exist, your molecules exchange energy and become something else and it recycles over and over again.

In fact, everyone of us has a Julius Caesar molecule in us right now.
You will die of the same thing that has killed every person since the begining of time. . lack of oxygen to the brain.
you need mental care,,and spiritual too
your asking the wrong man,look up to the heavens and ask the main man
be healthy than u will die in peace be un healthy than u will suffocate
you'll die like any other one %26 no one will care
C Life is precious not only for u but for others go to some temple or in greenry u will c in some days u will start a new
look to life.
now that question is one of the most unasered ?'s of our time no body knows how they will die u may die in woprld war 3 u may die next time u cross the street, u may die of old age or an incurable diease nobody knows. Only death does whens is ur time to die he will collect you may get u drunk first to make the passing more easier lol sorry but this question realistically can't be ansered unless ur religious
Only Heavenly Father knows...

How was your first trip to the psych ward?


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Noisy, out of control, confusing, threatening. First surprise the workers looked like patients - stringy dirty hair, rumpled clothes. Mixed bag - silent suffering street people, manic suicidal abandoned husband, giant active schizophrenic, sad dementia patient, several coked up strippers, me manic cleaning out the fridge. The police came in without warning to arrest some potsmokers, orderlies put one screaming girl in padded room in restraints with a big shot of something heavy. Felt totally powerless. Rather die that go back there.
CRazy!!!!!

I just had to say that.
it was great. i had just come out of seeing an episode of the view and rosie o'd was acting very butch. i'm ok now.
I broke a window i tried to escape i got ECT yea lots of good times
Actually my first day to the psych ward was as an employee. It made me rather nervous at the time. But, it ended up my favorite place to work
very sad i was 6 and my parents were admitting my older sister who was 12
It was somewhat tense to say the least
even though I was assured that my friend
was over his feelings that he had to kill everyone
around him to "free the world" of the "enemy" !!

He's out now, working everyday at his new job
at the local post office !!
I spent my 16th birthday in a psych ward. My cousin put LSD in my coffee and I spaced out for a couple days. My parents freaked out and had me admitted for 30 days observation. That was the REAL trip, not the LSD.
my first trip to a psych ward was when i was nineteen years old and weighed 90 pounds. {i am a male} i applied for a job there and was hired. i was terrified. it was 1968 in a large psych hospital. we all wore a blue shirt, tie, and black pants. i felt like a jail guard. there were 80 patients on the ward, which was a infirmary ward with older people on it. the patients were very scary, some were yelling, fighting, and very noise. i spent the next thirty years as a hospital staff member. it was the most rewarding job i have ever had. i got to help a lot of people, and got to like the patients, and almost regretted retiring.

How was depression treated in the past?

I'm having trouble finding information of how depression was treated in the past and when it was first discovered. If you provide any information please cite where you found that information, thanks.
Answer:
Washington Post Article: Year, 1931

http://pqasb.pqarchiver.com/washingtonpo...

New York 1840's to 1996: Mental Illness
http://www.archives.nysed.gov/a/research...

More:
http://www.mdx.ac.uk/www/study/mhhglo.ht...

http://www.sos.mo.gov/archives/exhibits/...
they treated it like some kind of virus...gave em pills n told them it would make em feel better but they just wanted to make money off poor innocent people.oh wait they still do that ..
Look up mental illness in the years you are interested in. Depressives committed suicide because there was no medication for it. Also look up famous depressives and famous suicides.

How u make someone u loved to stoped useing drugs?!!?


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i know what you mean. i have that problem with my dad and sister, but no matter how much you want it, you cant make anyone do anything. just be a good example for them and be supportive and talk to your friend.
You my friend are what we call co-depenent. You can only be supportive and set a good example.
have an intervention.
I'm sorry, but you can't "make" anyone do anything. They have to make the decision to stop for themselves if it is going to really happen.
You have to do what's best for you. Do you want to have your life continue to be affected by their selfish choices? Can you stand watching them slowly kill themselves? Sometimes telling the person that you aren't going to support their choices by being a part of their life is the best thing that you can do for yourself, and the person with the addiction.
Good luck, and take care of yourself.
I'm sorry to say, that there is no way. You can't change someone or make someone do something they don't want to do. They have to want to change. Once someone reaches rock bottom, they will either choose to stay there or find a change in themselves. The best way you can help them is by not helping them in any way. Helping them will slow their move to rock bottom. Helping them will make there addiction go on forever.
You cannot make them do anything, they have to want to do it themselves
I know its hard, but you can't make them stop. It was there freaking damn bad choice to live their life like that. Have them go to therapy. Soon you will be at their funeral if they don't quit.
there is no way that you can make anyone stop doing anything that they feel is right for them, no matter what you say or do. they have to realize on their on that what they are doing isn't good for them, and alot of times they have to hit rock bottom before that happens. all you can do is be there to pick them up once they've fallen.
well my dear, you cannot make them stop using. this is a very difficult situation. my first question to you would be " does your loved one ever verbalize that they would want to but just can't? if so , you can only be there for support and help guide this person to a treatment center , then be there for this person when the treatment center has functions and family therapy.
right now , you ask them "Do you want to stop using drugs?
now if they do not want to stop using , there's little you can do except be a positive influence in their life and lead by example. prayer does work , pray every day for this person to wake up out of the drug induced fog and find the sweetness in life. there is one thing , maybe that you could influence them to do , and that is to start going to some type of counseling with you. let it be something you do together. there's always an underlying problem or issue
that is unresolved or depression that is influencing the addiction. people who are depressed feel bad and the drugs make them feel good. it's very simple to understand when you look at it like that. who wouldn't want to feel better. but because of underlying mental issues , their decision making isimpulsive and ignorant to the cost or the price that they may pay for using drugs to feel better. usually an antidepressant would be given and counseling , then a change in life style. Lots of prayers . if this is someone you love and they love you , then use that to your advantage in guiding them down the right path. good luck
Unfortunately, you CAN'T make a person stop using drugs. The best you can do is organize an intervention along with others in the person's life and somehow try to persuade the person to seek treatment. Ultimately, though, it's up to that person alone to seek help.
You can't. You can encourage them to go into rehab but that is about it. Even though you may care for this person you have limited options. One thing you don't want to be an enabler. If this person is having a detrimental effect on your life it may be necessary for you to seek greener pastures. Tough love is tough but you can't let someone else destroy your life.

How tooooo focus!!?

Okay my birthday party is tomorrow, and wow so much stuff is going on.like schools almost over, and graduation is coming up, and i have a bunch of major projects and finals. So I have just been worried about everything...and I wanted to know if anyone had any tips on how to forget about all that stuff, and just focus on living in the moment, because I don't want to forget the small things that make everything so cheerful you know. Any ideas, would realllly help, and maybe you know what I'm talking about, its like where you feel so overwhelmed with excitement and you don't know what to do....haha okay well anyways...thanks for the help if you know anything to help me out!
Answer:
haha well dont do anything stupid.
juuuust relax!! theres a reason why you're so excited about all of these things...but just take a deep breathe and dont think about the things to come. just focus on your finals and projects. you want to do good on them right??! ..well thats the most important thing you have to do right now.
prioritize.
the day before graduation..worry about it.
worry about your party tomorrow and nothing else.
after your party is over (depending on how late it goes) focus on your schoolwork.

just take a deep breathe and do whats important first.

How to work with and resolve conflicts that you are most likely to meet?


Answer:
The answer to this depends mainly on the types of conflicts you are referring to. If this is work related, then you would need to go through the proper channels at your place of employment to voice your grievance. If this is family/home related then you simply need to voice your grievance and hope that the remaining members of the family will do their part in helping alleviate the problem.
As gently as one can?
That starts at an early stage in life. Learning to recognize one's conflicts %26 learning how to deal with them, is better than trying to run away from them. It never works %26 it doesn't teach you how to deal with life's disappointments %26 how to cope. I was always taught that there will always be things/people in life that I don't like but I learned how to deal with them %26 go on. It can be challenging at times, but that's what has made me a much stronger person today.
Self confidence is the most important factor in resolving conflicts. Know that u can face situations head on and don't beat around the bush. The sooner u make a decision in the matter, the faster the conflict will be resolved and u can get on with life. Be mature and honest and self confident. Life will take care of the rest.
by stating what's on your mind. Your feelings are key here. Don't settle and don't pretend just say how you feel. it's that Easy!

How to unwind after a long day?

I am a teen girl, and I like to do things by myself after a long day, and I have done these things many times:
Read
Write
listen to music
do a facial mask.

I want something new to do, that will relax me after a long day! any ideas?
Answer:
i am a stay at home mom.. but my daughter is now teething.. so little people are getting a tad cranky around here at bedtime...so when she finally does go to sleep... i light candles... cup of tea.. hot or cold ... sit .. i do nothing just sit.eyes closed and breathe.

but as hobbies to calm myself i walk, scrap book, puzzles, bake, clean, and paint
hehe answer questions!

Walking's good too. :)
you screw yourself up then let loose spinning.
Get some paints and a canvas, put in your favorite tunes and just let the strokes fall where they may. If you're really not that artistic, get a paint by number kit. I find painting to be very relaxing.

You could also take a bubble bath.
walking, cooking, especially baking. If you don't wanna eat your goodies, you could give them away (teachers, old folks, neighbors)
Put on some soothing music light some candles lay them around your bath tub and have a relaxing calm bubble bath enjoy the peace and you have time to yourself! :) hope I helped! :)

How To Trigger Nightmares?

I am 13 years old. And I actually want to know what triggers nightmares and how I can make myself have more nightmares. Nightmares are great for inspiration and I would like to have them more often. If anyone can answer this question I would appreciate a reply.
Answer:
Try watching the scariest movies you can. Anything really graphic, violent, suspenseful, and just plain creepy. Other ideas would be visualizing yourself in traumatic or scary situations before you go to bed. Kidnappings, robberies, plane crashes, torture, assault, being chased, committing suicide, blood, violence, anything that induces fear and adrenaline will help produce nightmares.

I'd be careful though. You're 13, and you don't want to end up traumatizing yourself. PTSD isn't fun. Those nightmares scare the sh*t out of me. And I'm 17.

I do understand about the creative aspect though. Great songwriting, poetry, and writing come out of fear. I've written hundreds of poems and stories while depressed, lonely and scared. It's a great motivator, just please don't overdo it.

You're very brave for actually wanting nightmares. Hopefully you'll get some great creativity going!
I have heard of eating chocolate b4 u go to bed.Think about scarey stuff b4 you go bed. watch scarey movie b4 u go to bed. Have fun wetting the bed!

How to tell my mom I have an anxeity disorder?

For some reason I am embarrassed to admit that I have an anxiety disorder, how do I tell my mom this so I can get medicine for it?
Answer:
Just tell her what you are experiencing, the symptoms and tell her they are severe enough that you feel you should see the family doctor. Then behind closed doors you can explain all of it to the doc and let them make the diagnosis to your mom.
Tell your mom when she's in a good mood and when she's alone.

Tell her that your unable to manage your anxiety and your relation with others are getting ruined because of that.
Dont feel embarrassed, she'll take care of everything.
Just tell her . 75% of human beings have one form or another of anxiety and or depression.
Tell your mom. Anxiety disorders are not rare. Many people have it. I am one of the people who have it and I take medication.
My life has been so much better after going on medicine for anxiety. I suffer less anxiety attacks now and I feel like a much better person. It really helps you with your
self esteem.
I hope you tell your parents, it will really help you!!!
Unless you've seen a doctor, you don't know if you have anxiety disorder or not. Anxiety is often a symptom of a physical problem- sometimes as simple as a poor diet, too much sugar, or hypoglycemia. Tell your mom you're not feeling well, see a doctor, and get a proper diagnosis.
Quickly--IMMEDIATELY, if not sooner.

She needs to get you to a doctor, before you start having attacks--or any attacks that you are having get worse.

As far as medication goes, age has everything to do with what sorts of meds will help you.

Check out:

http://www.about.com

Type anxiety in their search box (upper right corner). There is plenty for you to read at that site.

Feel better--and it really is best that mom knows now.
wait a minute... what makes you think you have anxiety disorder? Usually, a medical professional will make that determination and then, if appropriate, prescribe the medication. You are putting the cart before the horse.
Tell her it's hard to function because of overwhelming feelings.

How to succeed with a difficult veinipuncture?


Answer:
Success depends on experience, which produces skill. Try getting help from a skilled Med. Tech, Nurse or doctor. They can check to make sure your basic procedure is ok. Knowing the basic structure of the veins also helps, though an individuals anatomy may be slightly different than the textbook. Practice using a 7cc syringe, and 12/14 gauge on an orange, and learn to feel the different textures with your fingers, as you pierce the outer skin, then into the rind, then into the core. Depending on what lab tests are ordered, you can sometimes use a smaller gauge needle. Most hospitals/labs have a three-stick rule for the protection of the patient. At that time you pass the patient to someone higher up on the venipuncture line. No matter how skilled you are, everyone has off days, and there are some patients whose anatomy will require the doctor to determine whether the requested labwork is worth the increased procedural risk of an art. line, or other order.
I used to work as a pediatric nurse. Not only would our patients' veins be small to begin with AND they were never happy to be in the hospital and subjected to all kinds of traumatizing and scary procedures, but often they came in dehydrated! Triple whammie.

Like most nurses, I had my favorite vein sites to try. But I think the most important thing to remember is try the largest vein that you can see easily, take a deep breath, and go slowly. :)

How to stop yearning for death?


Answer:
It depends why a person is yearning for it.

If they are sick, and in a lot of pain, they need to have a doctor's help getting rid of the pain. And they need to be with people who love them.

If they are depressed, and think that their existence in this world is more of a burden than a help, then they need to get help working on the depression. And they need to get people who love them to tell them to "stay here" and why.

If they miss someone who has died before them, and that is why they want to die, to be reunited, then they need to talk with the dead person in their minds, and listen when the dead person says to wait.

So if the person yearning for death is someone else, you can help them by telling them exactly why you want them to stay around, that you love them, and that you want them in your life. And repeat this as much as necessary.

And if the person is yourself, you need to get people around you who can do this for you.

In either situation, it is often very helpful for the person to talk to a doctor. Yearning for death always feels "right" to the person feeling it. But sometimes it is really their body's response to a true medical problem that needs attention.
i distract myself by talking to friends/family (anyone who will listen, really) and going online. if i keep thinking about my life i feel total despair and wish for death.
Wow you need to talk to your parents abitu getting you help
Seek professional help.

Yearning for can be caused by a chemical imbalance. The right medicine and therapy can stop that yearning.
accept that you are alive for a reason, a purpose...focus your energies on finding that purpose. Yearning for death is just an effort to run away from life, and that never solves a thing. Instead, engage in life, take it on and make it your life's work to discover your purpose and be successful at fulfilling that purpose.
you need to get in touch with a suicide hotline fast . i suffer from bipolar and three years ago i tried to kill myself . luckily i got caught (at the time i was so pissed i was found in time ) i went to a hospital and was in the mental ward for two weeks and they put me on meds and monitored the outcome to be sure they were right for me . a year and a half ago my brother killed himself and the pain and questions that one leaves behind can be almost too much to handle for the loved ones . if you need someone to talk to you can reach me at the addressses provided ... i would be very glad to help you ... some times a shoulder can be a godsend ...JIM
short of having an experience where your life is threatened- I think the next best thing would be to see a counselor. what i mean is, no matter how bad you think your life is, when actually faced with the reality of dying, in a traumatic event such as robbery or violent crime or maybe even terminal illness...yearning for life would more than likely take place. if you are out on your own and working- check into the employee assistance program or low cost counseling offered by state agencies. if you are living with a parent, talk to them or your guidance counselor. it doesn't always feel like it, but life is a gift. peace and blessings.
I seriously recommend taking antidepressants. Keep trying different ones and combinations. If after several months of trying you still feel this way then I don't even know what will stop it. Have you seen that documentary on IFC called "The Bridge"? I sounds like you are one of those people. That other nurse is full of crap. I feel for you buddy...I really do. I hope you find your way.
Unlike most people here who will tell you to immediately seek therapy, I am not so narrowminded.
It's a human basic to be in touch with the opposite of your "highs" that is the great times of life.

Time. That is my only answer from experience. I can't tell you it will pass, I can't tell you it won't. Time tells only.
IDon't yearn for death at my age each day is a bonus,
remember the is no afterlife just a black hole.
You may aswell yearn for it, because it's going to happen one day anyway... SOON!
try to be around positive people ones that you know are positive about life. let someone know how you feel
A lot of people don't know what they're talking about, they're idiots in other words, to suggest drugs and getting help. If you want to die, for pete sake just accept it. You wish to die. So be it. Life is actually good, just not for you. If you want to change that you can. Move to France, begin a gnome collection, become a stand up comedian, bake pies. A lot of people are depressed and yearn for death and that's perfectly normal, you shouldn't be made to feel bad about it. Or that there's anything the matter with you. Buck up, or take the easy way out, it's your choice, it's your life and we have free will to do whatever we choose to do. Being a good person can help and having a light heart, but if you are morbidly depressed, then weigh your options and decide what is best for you, but there is no reason to be morbid and suffer. No one deserves to suffer. Love yourself that much, to at least not allow yourself to suffer. And know that you will always be okay. Just tell yourself that you are okay now and you will always be okay, everything is going to be okay. Find something that you love, find things that you love. If you are still obsessed than perhaps there is a reason for it and just accept that you are a morbid human being. One word for you - Hamlet. To be or not to be. Life is a drama, a tragedy, a comedy etc. It's not such a big deal really. We all die and some people can't take life, big whop. You've made it this far and that is great enough. We are always okay and we are loved beyond our wildest dreams. Good luck friend.
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you know death is a part of life we live and we die there is an after life we just don't die i often wonder what the other side is like heaven being all spiritual and not living in this flesh world so much hurt and pain and sometimes happiness Anna Nicole had a yearning for the after life and had an addiction to Marilyn Monroe and then she lost her son and she could hear him calling for her and she wanted to go to her son and she did even her brand new baby girl could not keep her here but you know life is so short the Bible describes our lives as a flower blowing in the wind you see me and now im gone try to be thankful for what you have and don't take your life God does not like that just try to stay on a positive path i haven't walked a mile in your shoes so i don't know what you have been through but just remember we could be worse
Life is not about what you don't have.
think about and cherish the deceased's life. Think about what he/she did, how he/she spreaded the fun when alive.
You're already at level 5...Dream about answering enough questions to reach level 6... Seriously, though, if you're serious, you need to talk to your family doctor.. Nothing, from anyone here on ByeDr.com, is going to give you any kind of long term help. Someone might appease your senses for a short while, but you need a lasting sense of commitment to yearn for life and all the wonderful things it has to offer, if you just open your eyes and your mind...
Are you currently seeing a counselor? If so, have you talked about this yearning for death? Have you made a plan on how you'd go about ending your life? These are all important questions that need to be answered.

If you aren't seeing a counselor, therapist, etc., right now, please make an appointment with one this week. Promise?

Having been where I think you are now, I came to realize that it wasn't so much actual death that I wanted, it was the peace that I knew death would bring. No more pain, just peace.

My suicide attempt 2 years ago was almost successful - but not totally was I believe I was saved for moments of grace like this. So, you see, you are most definitely not alone in having these horrible feelings.

There's a really good website I'd like to suggest to you: www.depressionforumns.org
They are a pretty good board room that provides great emotional support.

Hope this helped you just a little.

Please hang in there. just until you see one more rainbow. I think seeing that will help give you a reason to want one more sunshine:):)

Best of Luck!

Ann
You need to first make sure you are safe while searching for an answer because yes there is an answer. Find help and a local support system. Next develop a list of goals and work toward them realizing life is not going to change over night. Hang in there and remember there are answers and relief if you seek them. You have to be willing to try/ work for __.
Hi:
My suggestion is that you go to a mental health doctor.
You might need something to help you with that and therapy at the sametime.
Try to find someone close to you to help you and support you
Good Luck
First of all why do you want to die...Please seek professional help immediately
think about the beauty in life, i know it is hard right now but think about the innocence of children the beauty of the sky, the flowers, think about your family, even though you might fight or not talk to your family, maybe you do not have any family but you are loved, most people just don't say it because they always think you will be around, my sister and brother took their own life, my brother did this years ago and my sister followed the same path a few days ago, not one day goes by so far that I do not think about them, about what I could of done to have stopped this from happening, they were so young, i feel so guilty, i could of done this, i could of done that, maybe they would still be here, sometimes i feel depressed but than i realize there is always someone more down, i have to be strong for the rest of my family, please don't put anyone you know thru this, this pain will never go away
I can understand if a person is terminally ill %26 wants their pain %26 suffering to end or if a person has lost a love one, is depressed %26 tired of living, etc., then they need to seek the help of their doctor, then be referred to a professional therapist to get the help they need. Thinking about death, especially the older we get is normal, but to really yearn for it, isn't. One person decides when our time is up %26 he's a higher power than all of us.
You may never stop that yearning for death but what you need to learn to except is that you are alive and you are here because God has a purpose for putting you here it's not all about you and why your here. God has placed you here for many different reasons to help out others who are worse off than you. He has placed you here to discover what great things he has created all the bad doesn't just happen to you everyday. You attract it by the attitude you have everyday. Instead of thinking of dieing or how you want to die try focusing on how can you help out others who are worse than you and how much they want to do what your thinking about do and look at what the consequences would be if that person would do something like that how many more people (family, friends) would you be hurting also.
Most pessimistic individual crave for this path.
For life is beautiful.
Keep a posisitive mindset.
You need to talk to friends, attend a course or do some
social work.
All these would keep you occupied.


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death will come in due time enjoy what you have

How to stop being shy so I can sing?

many ppl think I can sing, and I now have a producer interested in me. It took me 30 mins to build up the courage to sing infront of him. After I did it he was impressed, and now wants to put me in the studio. What should I do? I feel like ppl are going to be as hard on me as I am myself. And even though I know thats probably not so true...I feel like that and I get shy. Too shy. My heart races, I breathe a little faster.
Answer:
Some advice I give some of the singers I work with is to go to Walmart late at night %26 sing while you are shopping. Loud! People will look and stare...but who cares? It's late night Walmart :) When you get on stage, pretend you are singing in Walmart:) Trust me on this...it works every time:)
I have the same problem. I want to be a singer but I'm to scared and shy to sing in front of people. I will be watching your question because I need advise too. Good luck to you. Maybe we can do a duet together and it would make it easier for both of us lol!
Practice singing in front of friends. Then have your friends bring in a person or two you don't know and sing in front of them.
Then sing in front of larger and larger audiences.
Another way would be to act as if (pretend) you had all the confidence in the world and then before you know it you will.
well everybody's afraid of something. and all i can tell you is hey! he wants you in the studio. thats a big thing. think bout it. youre gonna have to face a huge audience sooner or layter. and just start withh small audiences and just work your way up :]

-Lil [G]
I used to feel the same way, first I had a speech class, which lessened it, then I joined a choir that did live singing, which lessened it, then I auditioned for other choirs that lessened it, then I did a musical which lessened it, then I took voice lessons which lessoned it, then I did solo recitals. I hope you get what I'm saying. Of course I still get a little nervous, but just enough to get the blood flowing! I wouldn't want to not get nervous at all or I wouldn't have the energy I need for a good performance.
i don't believe you since producers look for the whole package but i'll answer anyways...

think about expressing what it is the song is saying to your audience. believe that they MUST get the point or they will meet their death...so what you're singing is the most important thing they've heard in their life and you have one chance to convey your message.

OR maybe

The people in the room are here because they want to hear you and you want to give them your very best. Remember.unless you really suck.they are on your side and they dig your style.
My daughter sings and is also very shy. Initially she was almost unable to be in front of people, I told her to close her eyes and vision being alone somewhere in which she was comfortable. This helped. Once she was able to open her eyes she looked above the people and not at their faces. Eventually, she became comfortable--or at least not quite as scared to be singing with others watching.
As far as ppl being hard on you...that is going to happen. Some because they lack the talent you may have and some just because thats how they are. Be you and I am sure you will be fine. Good luck!
Do relaxation techniques, simple stuff like breathing slowly, clenching and clenching your hands and toes, talking to yourself in encouraging ways. What are you singing? %26gt; I am an actress in musical theater, but I can by shy in real life. I have found that when I am in character, I can do whatever I want and sing as loud/good/unique as I want or as the part calls for because I am not Sarah, I am my character. If you aren't singing character songs, try and simply make up a character for yourself in the song. Most of all, convince yourself not to be nervous and have the attitude that you are AWESOME and you will succeed in what you are doing since you obliviously are very talented. Attitude and how you think about yourself are very important, just get out there, breathe, and use the talent God gave you! Also, everyone, even the pros, get nervous sometimes when they preform. All that matters is that you love what you are doing and you know that you can do it.
 

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