my mom emotionally abuse's me. Like she neglects me and blames every thing on me, and if something happens then its my fault. I feel like such a horrible child, I dont know what to do. I want to tell the counselor, but all she would do is tell my mom and that would not help AT ALL!!
Answer:
If your counselor told your mom what you talked about then it would be a breach of confidentiality. The only person a counselor can discuss your case with is a supervisor, who is someone not above them, but a person who has agreed to be a confidente. They cannot discuss your case in any way outside of agreed protocols. They only talk together because the counselor needs to maintain a healthy state of mind. Taking on board others' problems can be very emotional and the supervisor is the outlet.
Has a counselor told your mom things that you wanted to be secret? If so, the counselor could get into serious trouble. There is a code of ethics, pages and pages long to protect all parties involved. The only time a counselor can breach confidentiality is when a person is a danger to themselves or other people.
I think that you should gain verification from your counselor that he or she will not discuss anything with your mom without your permission. Your mom will probably question the counselor, she will want to know how you are progressing, and she will want to know what you are talking about, parents are like that.
You do not go into much detail about the whys and whats of your situations, I understand that is hard to do anyway, but in order to understand where you are with your couselor, bite the bullet and ask, they are not there to judge, and you can say whatever you need to in order to progress to where you need to be.
You can do it, discuss it with your counselor, ask outright does he or she discuss what you talk about with your mom.
Good luck
A counselor islegally obligated tokeep what you share confidential. When you start to see her, she will tell you that she is onlyobligated to disclose info if she feels you are in direct danger or someone else will get hurt. She can discuss some assertiveness and rational-emotive behavior therapy techniques with you that certainly don't require her speaking with your parents.
No, actually. I'm a licensed counselor and I am in no way obligated to report anything to parents except in the aforementioned situations.
If you are really serious, you need to call your local Social Services office, Child protective services.
Well, the first answer is wrong. If you're underage, your parents have a right to know everything. The second answer is right. I hope you're not just mad. Because if you are, you have no idea how bad it can get.
Do tell the school counselor - she won't tell your mother. If what you describe to her is legally consider child abuse, then she is a mandated reporter, which means that she has to contact the appropriate law enforcement and/or social services agency to make sure that you're in a safe living environment. If it's not legally considered abuse, then she's not allowed to tell anyone (legally she could tell your parents if you're still a minor, but she doesn't have to, and would know that it's not a good idea). The only time she'd tell your parents what you say to her is if you are a danger to yourself or others, and your parents need to know to keep you safe. That means that if you tell her that you're planning to hurt yourself or someone else. The other time that she might tell your parents something is if you come to her with a serious mental heath issue that needs professional care outside of school, and that's the only way to make sure that you get that care. But she's definitely NOT going to tell your mom what you say about how your mom treats you unless you and the counselor agree together that it would be helpful for her to talk to your mom.
Some of the previous answers recommended contacting child protective services or the police. I don't think this is the right way to proceed. Emotional abuse is extremely difficult to prove, and for that reason is almost never acted on. Social services or law enforcement agencies would only be able to help if there was documented abuse. Unless they determine that your mother is legally abusive, there's not much they can do to help you, nor would they have the resources to do anything even if they were allowed to. Also, teenage girls often have strained relationships with their mothers, and there's a good chance that what you preceive as emotional abuse is actually just an ordinary bad relationship, which isn't a legal matter. For both of those reasons, it would be better to talk it over with your school counselor first and let her help you figure out how to proceed.
You sound so old to be asking this question. Maybe you should try to make some friends your own age around you and try to be a good kid and do stuff to help your mom and not hurt her? I know that it is hard to grow up, but surely all of us have to do this and once you have your own kids you will look back and see a lot of things differently.
talk to your counseler/she will call the proper authorties/because yr mother will find out regardless of who u speak with/because that is a form of abuse/go to childrens services and talk with someone/do not put this off/it may get worse/do u have other family u could go to /at this time it sounds like u need time away from mom/and she from y/do the above so u do not get hurt/god bless
You need the support and advice of an adult. Someone you feel safe with,If you do not have an adult you feel safe with you need to change counslers to one you feel safe enough to tell the truth to without betraying you. I wish I could help you more but this is the first step to take.
if this is severe you should contact someone of higher authority then a counselor because their all fags and say violence doesn't solve anything.
mabe your mom only does this because she knows u could do beter and your not showing her that u could and then she gets frustrated
you need to really step back and think about what you re saying. are you aware what abuse constitutes. i have a feeling you don't
i am not in your shoes but you sound a bit like a chapped up teen who dose not like what your mom tells yah. maybe you make her feel like shes a horrible mom. trust me a walk in the foster care system is no picnic. make it till your 18 and move or get a job at 16 drop out and make your way through life. i know this is not what you wanted to hear but it usually isn't
counslers are suposta keep everything that u say confidental.
and u need to start standing up to her.
dont let her do that to you.
just talk to ther counsler.
good luck
go to this website: www.ilovemeinc.com. read it, do what it says to do. then you will figure things out. you could even help your mom with her issues with the website.
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