I am a 17.y.o boy at school
-in my final year i've lost my normal study habits
-i seem to fight with my parents more
-i am having more trouble with friends and relationships(ie. keeping them good)
-some times i am pretty depressed due to this
what can i do? maybe i have a mental problem? (like bipolar) yes severe i knw but just asking...
Answer:
Your 17, and in your senior year. Lots of changes and challenges.. like you haven't already had some?
And, it appears lost your focus in life, goals..
some things happen like a snow ball.. one thing happens , then a reaction to, and another and another.. studies, grades, parents, friends.. you understand..
So, what are you wanting out of life?
don't know?.. I suggest talking to first your guidance counselor at school.. You may not now think about college, but, if you do later change your mind and your grades aren't there, you lost opportunities. It happened to me..
Not that you still couldn't go, but, delayed is never as good as
early.
You probably aren't bipolar.. but, if you really doubt, that causes mental anguish and worry.. So ask your parents for help.. talk to them, explain your fears and concerns.. Ask to see a family doctor for a full physical. diabetes and other conditions can sometimes have problems associated that can throw you off at times inside, where you feel unsettled .
You are going through a transition so to speak in your life from youth to adulthood . Be kind to yourself.. You'll be ok.
Sometimes too we find that the friends we thought were our friends aren't who we thought they are, or the kind of people we really want to be around or like anymore.. that's ok.. Adults too have the same happen..
You are on a path of discovery.. it is wonderful if you have the attitude of adventure and set a goal with it.. Reach out and realize the potentials you have are there if you but take hold of them. I had three children who we were told had learning disabilities out of our many we had. I taught them , that it was only a label given them, if they believed the label, they would get just as far as the label of others given.. or , they could challenge all and believe in the wonders and imagination of their souls. They all three have become very successful as the others.. One is a surgical assistant , another a CEO for a corporation, another has the biggest acct. nation wide for his company. They all have families and wonderful lives. I am very proud of them..
You are unique and special.. You can accomplish and do what ever YOU believe in you to do. Want success, in friends and family . See success first in your mind and heart..
Bring around you the kind of friends for that success. Positive influences.
You don't lose something , unless you let go. Find passion inside you.. that is in a purpose, a goal.. a dream.
I have seen dreams i never thought possible happen in my own life.. Over and over again.. I realized one day.. If you set your heart, and mind right.. anything is possible.. Be generous and kind, caring and forgiving. to others and self..
good life to you :)
no its called adolescence. dont let anyone tell you youre bipolar.
right now your glands are secreting hormones. typically adolescense is fueled with angst and fighting and struggles for independence because you are becoming a man.
theres not much you can do about it, because probably everything i wrote wont even make sense right now. so it just has to run its course basically, but everyone gioes through it.
Sounds like me a lot and I got through it. It's normal since you're gaining perspective of the world plus your hormones is raging inside you. This is the time you'll find your true friends.
My suggestions
1.Be close to God
2.Have a nice conversation with your parents. If things start to heat up try to avoid conflicts.
3.Try to study as hard as you can, it's your investment for your future.
GBU!
So much changes by your senior year - friends are going to different schools, you're about to gain a whole new level of independence. All of that can impact you emotionally. I doubt you are bipolar, you'd be seeing extremes in behaviors, not just changes.
If you are depressed about the way things are, try making an appointment w/your school counselor, or ask your parents to set an appointment with your doctor to discuss seeing a therapist.
It's supposed to be a fun time in your life, but it's also very stressful - so many things ending and beginning. Be patient w/yourself.
My Husband went thru this too when he was your age. He turned to drugs and went in a very bad direction. Don't do that. Whatever you do please don't turn to drugs as the answer. Sit down and talk to to your parents about the problems. If you can't do that then talk to your guidence Counseler. Maybe they can direct you to a good therapist. Be strong. You WILL get thru this. Good luck. Amy
You have all the symptoms of a condition called 'being a normal teenager'. You're growing up and are between two stages - you're neither a child, nor an adult. Things from now on will change drastically with your life as responsibilities grow. Look forward to the changes. Experience, absorb and learn. Life is full of fun these young adult years. Enjoy yourself with those around you rather than fight with them. Your parent's support will be your most valuable asset now. Respect them!
Don't worry abt mate, usually you go through this during puberty( As this is caused due to hormone changes). If you overcome this period, then hopefully you will be fine. I went to a similar phase, you went through . And thank god I 've certainly improved. usually the problem stops at the age of around 19-20yrs of age. in the present, try to meditate, for e.g sit down close your eyes, and think about nothing for abt 10 Min's, this will hopefully make you relax, Also pray, go to church, temple, mosque, and ask GOD, to overcome this difficult period you going through, and believe me the pray will be accepted. But note you have to believe in the pray, and in yourself. Thanks. May God Bless you, and may he relive you from the problem you're going through.
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