Let's say you are in a room with someone who is abusing you verbally and emotionally and you can't get out. All attempts to calm the person down are failing. Do you know any such website that offer good advice on what to say to that person?
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I don't know a web site but do know what I do (I am 65 yrs.young)If you can't remove yourself from the situation, try to ignore them. It is very hard sometimes, especially at first but gets easier with practice. Definitely work at not letting someone who is like that decide how you're going to feel for the rest of your day. You might say something such as (their name) You're really having a bad day today aren't you? Would you like to visit the restroom %26 splash your face with cool water, would that help, I'll hold down the fort while you go if you like? Remember, "more flies with sugar than with vinegar". This will help you feel better too because you are using a calm tone. It really works.
The traditional method is to hit them.
Leave the room and get out..
Try this site
say nothing more if nothing is working, eventually they will calm down and once they do, leave the room, walk away, and never put yourself in that situation again.
nothing you say will help=try ignoring the person and if this doesn't help go to another room if you can get permission
do not go to website/that person needs professional help/talk to a live person/if that is the case leave them
i would ignore them, starve them of the attention they probably desire.
I don't know of any good websites for you, but you know what start agreeing with the person and laugh at their dumb remarks and you know what throw back at them what they dish out, that usually works because a lot of people like to dish it out but don't like to be on the recieving end. Now, if it's going to cause a fight if you return fire then just leave the room and don't associate with this person. You deserve better than that.
First of all as soon as you can get out of this situation you need to. You never should allow someone to abuse you in any way. Some times you cant reason with people and I understand how fusterating that can be. You need to calmly tell the other person that you dont wish to talk to themn right now because of the way they are treating you and walk away. If you have to sit in the corner and ignore them do it. Do what ever you can to stop the cycle. Good luck!
Persevere, if you remain calm they will eventually finish their rant. Either that or crack a joke and make them laugh....you can't be angry and laugh at the same time. Always worked on my ex when she was having a rant.
I tried yelling back, it worked before. I also tried it and it didn't work, i got warned i was going to get fired, so then I complained to the big boss and got the person fired for being a jerk. It felt great!
If you cannot get out of the room, you are technically being held hostage or are a victim of kidnapping. It is a crime to hold a person in a room and abuse them verbally and emotionally and not allow them to leave.
You also may be in great physical danger because the abusive person may escalate the abuse to physical abuse.
Try this website:
http://www.hostagenegotiation.com/...
Punch em in the throat
believe me there is only one word to say and that is goodbye it is awful living in a situation like this, try to get away even a refuge is better do try. I lived with this for seven years it was like living with a bottle of pop, never knew when he would explode
Depends on what they are saying about you. Its always best to be the bigger person but screw that right stand up for yourself who cares if no one agrees with what you believe in. I will give you a situation of mine that happened to me. My ex was being mean to me in front of people the only thing bad he could say about me was I have a gut on me from haven kids but for him i knew all his dirt because he was a peice of poop. So i use that and hurt his feelings and it really hurt his feelings when I had my daughter flip him the bird and say I hate you so you just gotta know what hurts a persons feeling and when you figure that out hitm were it hurts.
Kill them with kindness. Agree with them, even if YOU are right. Treat them as you would like to be treated. ...and imagine that it is only a passing phase, and they WILL be better, and treat YOU better in the future.
I'm going to assume that you are a worker in a nursing home,because this happens very often to caregivers,some of those folks in the home can be very abusive,and it's against the law for you to abuse them back...if that is the case,don't take it personally,realize that they may not be abusing you consciously but as an effect of their disease,usually dementia,Talk to them firmly but not mean, realize that it is more for your benefit than theirs,as a way for you to vent steam and still be civil to them.It is a challenge but it can be done,if you are in a private home and it is a loved one who is acting this way you need to alert someone that this person is going insane and seek help from your dr as he can refer you to social services that deal with Alzheimer's or dementia patients.I hope I helped.
Count to 10, think nice thoughts about a holiday or whatever and bide your time. Agree with them if you have to. Plan a revenge for when the tables are turned...
I find just saying 'whatever' repeatedly is the best way to deal with it. It p_isses them off to the point where they just give up.
Say nothing just give
them a Malki,,
just tw*t them around the head every time it starts, they'll either stop doing it, start hitting you too, or need medical treatment
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